Active discussions

Meet the Other Phone. A phone that grows with your child.

Meet the Other Phone.
A phone that grows with your child.

Buy now

Please or to access all these features

Talk
Lone parents

Use our Single Parent forum to speak to other parents raising a child alone.

Original poster

what would you do???

5 replies

juicychops · 08/04/2006 14:19

Im 21 year old single mum with 14month ds. i have just started to accept that my ex wont have anything to do with ds ever again (his decision) which im ok with now as we are better off without him anyway. I live in a rented house which rent and council tax are paid for and i get my benefits. i dont get much and i dont have much left over after bills but i get by.
i feel like i need to just do something big. i have no job or serious partner so I have nothing holding me back from doing anything i want(apart from if it needs funding,but then there are always ways around that) but i dont know what i want. Obviously my ds will be involved in whatever i do which is great. But i wanna do something life changing or something that would be a brilliant experience. i just really want to do something great for myself whilst i have the chance. something that i can look back on and be glad i did instead of doing nothing with my days.

Do i just sound crazy? or does anyone else feel like me?
I need some ideas and inspiration as to what to do

SmileSmileSmileSmileSmileSmileSmileSmileSmileSmileSmileSmileSmileSmileSmileSmileSmileSmileSmileSmileSmileSmileSmileSmileSmileSmileSmileSmileSmileSmileSmileSmileSmileSmileSmileSmileSmileSmileSmileSmileSmileSmileSmileSmileSmileSmileSmileSmileSmileSmileSmileSmileSmileSmileSmileSmileSmileSmileSmileSmileSmileSmileSmileSmileSmileSmileSmileSmileSmileSmileSmileSmileSmileSmileSmileSmileSmileSmileSmileSmileSmileSmileSmileSmileSmileSmileSmileSmileSmileSmileSmileSmileSmileSmileSmileSmileSmileSmileSmileSmileSmileSmileSmileSmileSmile

OP posts:
Pinotmum · 08/04/2006 14:30

Do you have any qualifications? A girl I met on holiday last year was in a similar sitution. She went out to Ibiza with her 2 yo and waited tables while her pal worked in a beautician attached to one of the bigger hotels. She had her dd in a nursery some days and with her on other days - hard work when you're waiting tables I'm sure.

MadameDeMars · 08/04/2006 14:32

What about doing an OU course? They are fabulous! Also because you are on benefits they will give you a grant (not a loan).

This way you can study for something that you want to do in the future and still have the time with you 14mo. Smile

Well done you for wanting more!

Original poster
juicychops · 08/04/2006 14:42

ive reserved a place to do level 1 towards a psychology degree but ive got to wait until may for the papers to be sent through about financial help and the course starts in May! so im not optomistic about it all getting sorted in time

OP posts:
Jasean · 09/04/2006 01:29

I've just reserved a place on a level 1 OU course! I can't wait! But I have to, because it doesn't start until October. I can't start it before because the grant won't be through in time. I was going to my local college full-time,(my daughter's in school), and I loved it, but they kicked me off the course because I had to take 3 weeks off when my daughter was off school for 3 weeks when she had terrible bugs. I got depressed about that. I'm still down, but really looking forward to this OU course.

MadameDeMars · 09/04/2006 02:06

It will all come through in time.

Well done for registering! Grin

New posts on this thread. Refresh page