Two dads

[Fifi2406]

I have a son (14 months) his "dad" is not involved never has been and Im currently not in a relationship but if I were to meet someone i might want another one as I can't imagine myself only having one child and I am an only child and hated it growing up but I feel funny about having another baby with someone else to the point where i think i shouldnt ever have more? Anyone else feel like this or felt like this and did have another? Two children by two different men just freaks me out!!!!!!

I don't know if that even made sense! I'm knackered!

I think it's too early to be worrying about it!! I think if you meet someone that you really click with, and eventually decide you want a baby together, the reality will be different. It will just seem natural, because you will have already created a little family unit with your ds. I have 2dc, and am too old for more, but if I were 10 years younger may not have ruled it out!

Put it all out of your head for now - you have no idea what the future will bring and you have enough on being a single mum to a 14 month old. Worry about potential siblings (or lack of) at a later date.

That´s what I´m doing, anyway. My son is 20 months and I currently lean towards the "I´m fine with one but would not rule out having another child one day although I think its unlikely" camp

chill out and take care of immediate things, not future things for now. Toddlers are all consuming! :)

hope that helps

oh yeah I´m a single mum too - looked back at the post and realised that that was not clear. No new partner so far either

Well you always have the option of seeking out the first dad to have him impregnate you again ... if that appeals at all (I'm guessing not).

More practically, if and when you meet someone you will decide what is best for the three of you (him, you and your ds).

Not gonna happen! He might have well have been a sperm donor the first time with the amount of effort he has put in! I know I'm totally over things way to soon!

I felt like this for years. And now I am pregnant with my new partner, who isn't the father of my 2 DDs. He desperately wants a child of his own and is am amazing "step Dad" to my girls. People may frown apon it but we know it's best for us and we are all very happy.

So what I mean is, if/when the time is right, you will know

Aw congrats! So glad its not just me and that you could get over it! That's what I hate the telling people they've got different dads or say you met someone a different race to the first dad and the children totally don't look alike! And my son is pretty much identical to his dad! Basically I'm thinking what others would say! I shouldn't care! I'm not even with anyone haha

How long was it until you decided you were ready to have another??

We had planned to have this baby next year once we had bought our new house and the girls were at school. But my merina coil didn't do it's job properly and I am 32 weeks pregnant! Haha. But we were very happy. We move into our new house next month and will have been together about 2 years when baby is born. I know it's not that long!

Hi fifi

I was a single parent for 7 years, couldn't imagine ever bringing anyone into my children's lives let alone having a child (my 2 dcs are 12 and 9 now) but I've met an amazing person who doesn't have his own children and am now 14 weeks pregnant with my 3rd child.

My new dp's father is of Indian origin also so we'll have 3 names, 2 fathers, a wide range of complexions and everyone of us is going to be part of a lovely blended family.

Trust your feelings, you'll know (and previous experience is a massive help here!) when something is right.