can i stop contact if ex poisoning son mind?

[exmrs]

Bit of back story ex left and has to be forced to see son and refuses to see him regularly.
We dont talk at all as things are very messy, lately he has been seeing son at his mums house but each time son comes back my son cries and says dad says i need to stop telling lies and acting like a baby, and if i was nice he would come home.
Im so fed up as i have pushed and pushed him to remain in contact with his son and this is the thanks i get.
I dont know what to do this is just never ending i wish i would have let him walk away from son but every week there is a new drama
Would i be in trouble if i stop contact as he is harming my child psycholigacally and he doesnt commit to set contact anyway

Do you have a Court Order in place? If not then you could stop contact. If he was committed enough then he could apply for a contact order. You can't force him to have contact if he doesn't want it, but it isn't acceptable for him to bad mouth you to DS. I'm assuming you don't bad mouth him to your ex. How old is your son?

no i dont this is whats so frustrating, ex has had 2 affairs and left son twice and refuses to see him regularly as he has a g/f so slots him when he can be bothered
son just turned 6 and has cried at home after last 2 contacts

oh no court order in place

Start keeping a diary of contact and how your ex lets your son down by putting himself and his partners first. Put the ball in ex's court. If he wants contact he should apply for an Order. I understand you would both be required to attend mediation, which would give you an opportunity to voice your concerns.

Stop forcing anything. It is pointless.
Wait until ex asks to see son.
Or until he seeks court order.

Record the fact son comes back from seeing dad upset and don't organise any more contact. Take a break.

Agree very much with the above. Maybe the 'forcing' is making things worse??

If you allow things to settle to your husbands pace he may feel like he is more in control again and respond more positively. I know that sounds unfair on your son, but it may be needed in the short term.

I wouldn't withdraw contact as that might be a red rag to a bull and cause problems in itself?

I hope things improve?