Hi there, I asked my partner to leave three weeks ago now after twelve years and two children together. It broke my heart to finally admit defeat and to break my childrens home up but I had been unhappy for so long and nothing seemed to change despite couples counselling etc. My ex has a temper nothing too bad but he would have a full on tantrum and shout and swear at me when he did not get his own way. We had other problems too and I was overly critical of him and lost respect for him in the end.
I am glad it is over between us but I wasn't prepared for the financial side of things to go so wrong so quickly. I.S. don't understand my self employed status and CTC say that my claim has been withdrawn. I only earn twenty pounds a week tutoring! So I am skint and worried already about how I am going to afford the next food shop/petrol let alone the rent! My ex will not help out until his maintenance kicks in next month and today him and his parents took my daughter Christmas shopping and for the first time I felt so low. I want to spend time like that with her! Also last night when I called him to ask for money he just started screaming at me down the phone and then screamed for his mum to come and talk to me.
I don't have parents myself so feel bullied. I am in the home we bought together but as we arent married I feel that there is nothing I can do to put a stop to his behaviour and get some interim financial support.
Has anyone experienced similar or have any pearls of wisdom for me? Despite all this somewhere deep inside I am happier and the kids seem happier too which is ironic really as things couldent be worse financially.