total rant and I don't care if it is unreasonable so I'm not even gonna ask!

[MillionDollarBaby]

My dd's father is apparently sitting in one of my locals this evening and I am furious.

He is such a w*nker and the last thing I want to hear is that he's back in town after all the trouble he's called recently, let alone socialising with my (so called) friends!

he's a fcking twt. I'm really pissed off. Wish I had a babysitter so I could go and glare at him and make him feel so unwelcome that he would never come back.

God I'm so angry and I know it's irrational.

i take it he's not a great dad then?

no he's a prick.

And now I've just found out that it is my dp's ex's birthday party in there and my 'd'p is there. along with my friends who are telling me via text.

Am so angry, asked p not to go up there as he was there and p told me he was somewhere else but text friend to say tell me if he turns up and she replied saying he was there already. wanker.

am furious on so many levels. have sent him a horrid text and locked him out.

lol at locking him out, what's he doing at his ex's birthday anyway? sorry, probably shouldn't have asked.

not irrational BTW, men are so good at winding us up. have a stiff drink, a smoke if you do, a chocolate if you don't, scream into a pillow and head to bed so your not up to let him in if he turns up!

as for dd's dad, have no advice except try not to think about him, try and reach that zen like place and not care, if he wasn't out there, he'd be somewhere else, you can't wipe him off the face of the earth (unfortunately) so you'll just have to try and ignore him (impossible i know, but if you pretend you're calm about it for long enough, one day you actually will be)

on your behalf - AAAAAAAAH!!!!

I am so calm to his face that it infuriates him. I only rant where he can't see or hear me.

Am so fed up with p, don't even want to speak to him. I've turned all the ringers off on all th phones in the house and am going to bed shortly.

thanks for replying!

Thanks Ninah, not seen you around for ages..

had baby in December
father being much as you describe with the asterisks - so not much time to post (plus on mat leave using his computer so discretion the better part of valour etc!)
Have you changed name?
I would be so too! in fact if you are in Essex I'd say bring the children here and go forth in vengeance (prob not a good idea tho). Just think, dotted all over the UK there are mums trapped, fully conscious, in silent houses, seething

it's MOH.

Have I completely missed the whole baby thing??? belated congratulations.

Scarlet Lashes I knew it was you! well double AAAAArgghhhH then! Had dd end of December - she's lovely, p being a couple winker and ficking twot, sadly. Often to be seen in our locals living it up and during the later stages of my pregnancy took the barmaid/customer relationship to new depths. Are you still with your dp and should I buy a new hat
God someone's just woken up ds - catch you soon x

well if you do see this - another congratulations. Does she have a name? I'm sure she is lovely! well done you.

Sorry to hear your ex is being a ocmplete arse as well x

You poor thing, hope you feeling calmer this morning. If i were you i would go out somewhere away from local area and have a nice long walk.

she's a lovely baby! Arianna
Kept me up ALL night last night though, not her fault - cold, can't breath to feed etc, just crying - ds 'wants daddy', who is nowhere to be found
Are you feeling better this morning?
I had second viewing on my house yesterday so maybe the end is in sight - hurray! luck needs to change
Can you ring up your ex and blow a whistle down the earpiece or is that childish ...

Poor you, being up all night. Is she cutting a tooth? dd always cut them with a cold.

Not spoken to 'd'p yet.. when he realised he couldn't get in last night he started ringing the f'ing door bell FFS!!! knob! what's the best thing you can do at 1am? ring the door bell constantly of a house with a 3yo in it. I was not amused.

I assume he went home last night and I've ignored his calls today, I just don't want to speak to him at the moment.

Ninah, have you got somewhere to move to once the house is sold?

Arianna is a beuiful name btw

Hello! sorry I got confused thought this was your ex-p being such an asterisk (hence my sep reference to your dp) - bad enough - but current p?! even worse! god
How are things now?
Thanks! p hates the name Arianna but since he was too busy to come to the registry office with me I guess that's just too bad. We've had a helluva weekend cos she's been waking up coughing and then chucking up, as babies do - and her brother wakes - you know the score - well he's just gone to nursery and I'm coming round ...
I'm waiting for house to sell first then deciding about where to buy. I would need p's financial input to buy round here ... which is OK, until he decides it's more important to spend it on drink than my mortgage ... I'm taking it one step at a time ... I do have some ideas ... don't want to tempt fate atm
Hope things are better with you. Saw your comment on another thread about the men you know going out women staying in etc, snap, it's the done thing here, you either fight it by trying to keep pace (need unlimited cash for babysitters, facelifts etc etc) or you go under -the one thing you're not supposed to do is moan about the inequality of it ...
Catch up soon I hope x