Any lone parents with babies?

[ballroomblitz]

I know there was the pregnancy thread (that I never went on) so there must be lp with newborns/babies

Just wanting to know how everyone else is getting on with being on their own, dealing with ex/maintanence issues?

Me I'm finding it hard going atm.

Oh and good luck with your scan tomorrow.

Thanks, it's not until 11 so I have a vague chance at getting there on time. I'm hoping to be able to get a proper picture this time, bought the token for the photo at my 12 week scan (£5!!) and each time the baby has been facing the wrong way and they have only managed to get a blurry shadow shot. They had to cut my last scans short as ds3 wouldn't stop screaming both times, he just hates the dark room and I have no one to come with me or to watch him. I think I will give him a big bag of chocolate buttons, that'll keep him busy for a while. I'm not overly keen on being pregnant but I do enjoy being in labour I'm a weirdo mainly because the gas and air totally wrecks my head and I feel like I'm on another planet. Plus I have short labours, don't think I'd fancy being in labour for more than a couple of hours.

Ex has always been a knob, he just hid it better at first. Then by the time I realised I was pregnant and thought it was easier than being alone, then we had a baby and I didn't want to take ds3 away from his daddy, then I thought sod it and left - found out I was pregnant a few weeks later. He doesn't need to try and hide his knobbyness anymore. He was moaning that women get it easy not having to pay CSA and that he had such a hard life - he has no idea! He gets to sleep a whole night through, I'd pay the measly amount CSA are going to take just for that. Ds is getting better at sleep, but only if I am laying next to him, not sure how that will work with a newborn too but im not minding it to much at the moment.

It's typical that you get chance to sleep and the noise starts (although how dare you want to sleep, shouldn't you be scrubbing the floor with a toothbrush or something ) sometimes I take ds up for his nap purely so i can get an hour too. We have building works next to the house and I always want to shout at them to shut up even though they aren't all that noisy. There's a little lad down the road that's picked up by school bus early in the morning and it does that beep beep reversing thing - I seriously fantasise about going out there and shoving something up it's exhaust pipe - I am so unreasonable about everything at the moment, I have pregnant lady rage!

Your ex sounds like a right prat. I can see why you don't fancy another relationship. I'd like to study something but I don't know what. I'm still wondering what I want to do when I grow up! I did a course when I was 21 and most of the other people on it were mid 30s, some of them are qualified midwives and nurses now. It's not to late.

Internet has been down a couple of days. Felt like my hands were cut off.

How did your scan go? Did you get a decent picture this time? I find it really strange how some have to pay for scan pics. We got all of ours free. I have reems and reems for both because of pregnancy problems and even a vhs of ds in the womb. Keep meaning to get it put onto dvd as it would be something good to see and keep for him when he gets older.

God I know, how much would you pay for an uninterrupted night's sleep. Just one? I can't complain because dd is turning out to be an ok sleeper the past week but it's not just the newborns you have to deal with. Ds is hitting the bad 5 months of winter he is wrecked with his chest and has been up coughing and boaking from his cough. Are you thinking of co-sleeping? Is there not something you can attach to the bed for the baby? I'm sure I read it here somewhere. Maybe would enable you, ds and baby to be in the same bed.

either they hide the knobiness well or the rose tinted glasses come off

Hi ballroom, I am on my own with 3 week old. Been on my own pretty much since the start. It is blimin hard, I won't lie. I have been on antibiotics which means she has had a bad tum (am bf) and is not sleeping at night, in her cot or anywhere really!!!

I am staying with my mum but feel limited in what I can ask her to do and part of me wants to go back to my own flat and have some space although not sure I am ready for that.

I love my little girl to bits but it is so hard, I cant do anything with two hands anymore and barely have time to shower. I know things get slightly easier althoug it is a life long project :)

If you want to chat PM me. Like I say, cant offer any advice right now as am in the middle of it all but can offer support and say I know what you are going through.

I am not having dramas with father apart from that he is not interested in seeing her which is hurtful so guess it is more of emotional and sadness which is the last thing I need right now.

Will check in on you here.

xxx