I have a almost 15 year old son. Around 3 years ago I had enough of trying to make arrangements with his Dad to see him, but would never stop Ds seeing DD. I said they both have phones they can arrange it between them. His Dd was at home with us for around two years. I have always been chasing him as he would let DS down very often and not communicate why ect.
DS and I have taken presents at xmas to ex's GP where he lives.
a few days ago I get a letter from ex's GP saying she would rather we didnt bother her this year. The letter says that she tried to call DS 3 times and left messages to say thanks for presents last year and inviting him round.
I replied to the letter saying I dont know which number she called but Ds changed his no in april and I havnt had a land line. Ds says (unusual for him to lie) that he didnt have the messages.
During the 3 ish years ex has not bothered to communicate and Ds hasnt either.
I really feel for Ds. To me it reads ......the 14 yr old child hasn't been a grown up and kept contact so now we are cutting him from the family.
For me its for the best but for Ds I dont know. What do you think?