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Someone tell me how irrational I am!!

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rickman · 27/03/2006 10:09

Exp revealed that he had a girlfriend a few weeks ago and it seems to me, that he is turning into the perfect partner. Whilst I don't care that he has someone new, is it irrational that I feel peeved that he can help her out so much and be considerate when he was a complete git to me?

There are little things that I have heard about but they are grating on me.

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Senoracod · 27/03/2006 10:10

ah well you always thingk they are till you get to knwo htem well adn find out theyw ear pants wiht skid marks on them and pick their toe nails in bed

BonyM · 27/03/2006 10:11

rickman - he probably will be the perfect partner to start off with. Didn't you think he was perfect when you first met him?

Trust me, people don't change, and once the new relationship is more established he will show his true colours. Feel sorry for the new girlfriend.

rickman · 27/03/2006 10:11

Lol Cod. I'm kind of hoping it will wear off after a while and he will reveal his true colours. Is that nasty? :o

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TearsBeforeBedtime · 27/03/2006 10:11

anyone can put up a front for a few weeks, especially to try and charm a new partner.

nutcracker · 27/03/2006 10:12

I don't think it's irrational at all, but like Cod said, it's early days, give it a few weeks or whatever and he will slip into more comfortable arsehole ways and you'll be feeling smug that she has to put up with him and you don't Grin

Caligula · 27/03/2006 10:13

Not irrational at all. These things are designed to peeve.

Senoracod · 27/03/2006 10:13

rickers my dad was a vicar

one day a dya before a wedding the bride rang uo in tears

she had founf hte paper work of the old marriage ad thre dicvorce and all the reasons the ex wife gave for leaving him were STILL TRUE

she wanted to call offf he wedding ( they had glass wedding rings fgs ponces) dad advised yes

parents and h advised her not to

guess whta happened

rickman · 27/03/2006 10:14

Ooh I don't know. She went through with it?

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TearsBeforeBedtime · 27/03/2006 10:15

she went through with it, divorced him shortly after?

funny, I always assumed your dad was forces cod.

edam · 27/03/2006 10:16

Hey Cod, you have just strengthened my image of you as v. respectable straight-laced middle class mum and JP. Have you never rebelled?

Rickman, everyone's right about your dh - my dad was the same, very considerate towards my step-mother until they got married.. then reverted to type.

Senoracod · 27/03/2006 10:17

yep she went throught wiht it
the rings broke ( DUR) and they divorced

Senoracod · 27/03/2006 10:17

why edam?
oi have just this very minute been emailed abotu an articel t og o in our trade mag

about the fish

Caligula · 27/03/2006 10:18


She doesn't know what's going to hit her.

Wait till the kids go round and start playing up as well, and he's trying to do the perfect father thing while at the same time placating her.


Senoracod · 27/03/2006 10:18

( he was a forces Padre)

Caligula · 27/03/2006 10:19

pmsl at glass rings.

How could a divorce not be inevitable, with glass rings?

Senoracod · 27/03/2006 10:19

i know
they wer actors i think
( waits for mner to come on and say thatwas her)

Senoracod · 27/03/2006 10:22

so when you hear abotu him being lovely
think glass rings glass rings

and be soooooooooooooooooooooo loevly to him and her htat wthye wil feel totally diarmed

( think it will also do oyur won meantal ehalth good)
( not that there isnaythign wrong wiht it but it must be trickjy)

Senoracod · 27/03/2006 10:22

"htat wthye wil feel totally diarmed

that they will feel totally disarmed

Caligula · 27/03/2006 10:23

Yes be totally charming to both of them all the time and unnerve her - make her wonder why you split up

Senoracod · 27/03/2006 10:24

oh yes
and you will snigger glassrings to yourself

rickman · 27/03/2006 10:29

Ok, glass rings, glass rings ....

Actually, I think he expected me to go totally mad about it when he told me. I didn't at all, just told him that he should tell the kids and let them get used to the idea before they meet her.

Today most of the kids are at home sick again. Exp took ds1 to school, very unusual him agreeing to do anything to help me out and being around in the morning. Just had a text saying he doesn't think he can collect though as he is going to a funeral and then the wake. Dd tells me it is the girlfriend's nans funeral, I doubt very much if he has ever met her. I'm tempted to send a text back saying that the nan won't notice if he's there or not, but I have resisted so far.

Do you know, I doubt if he would have bothered to attend my funeral when we were together. He certainly couldn't be bothered taking time off when I was in hospital or when the kids were born. I'm such a bitter old hag!! :o

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rickman · 27/03/2006 22:20

12 hours later and I'm still feeling irritated. Maybe I should have another glass of wine. :)

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nutcracker · 27/03/2006 22:31

Yeah go on, have one for me too.

I actually wish Xp would find someone else, but I bet that once he does, I will feel irritated too.

rickman · 27/03/2006 22:51

Red or White Nutty?

I don't actually care that he has someone else, I don't feel jealous. It is just p1ssing me off that he can act like the perfect bloke now, when I had years of crap.

The kids seem to think the whole thing is great, no loyalty there then :o

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nutcracker · 28/03/2006 09:53

Sorry i dissapeared Rickman, I have the cold from hell at the mo.

First time i've been ill and a single parent and i am coping my mostly feeling sorry for myself and screeching at the kids .

Anyway, I know what you mean. I can just imagine Xp being oh so nice to his new lady when he eventually finds one. The way i look at it though is poor them Grin

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