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Will your Ex think to get you a mothers day pressie, because i know mine wont!!!!

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sanchpanch · 25/03/2006 16:00

i know it doesnt really matter but it would be nice that he could think a little bit about me, and how i look after our 2 girls on my own, and take girls out to chose something for me, after all on fathers day i will get the girls to do something nice for him........

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jampots · 25/03/2006 16:08

my husband doesnt do this either despite me reminding him often

nikkie · 25/03/2006 16:11

My mum does mine and his mum does his ,same at birthdays and xmas.Then I'm not relying on him as it won't happen!

nikkie · 25/03/2006 16:11

My mum does mine and his mum does his ,same at birthdays and xmas.Then I'm not relying on him as it won't happen!

nikkie · 25/03/2006 16:12

oops sorry

jmum6 · 25/03/2006 16:13

My dp used to do this for the mother of his daughter (way before my time) but he never ever got a fathers day card in return so he's stopped doing it now

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sanchpanch · 25/03/2006 17:13

Xmas was the same, i bought him pressie from girls and he didnt get me one, i will do fathers day this year, as i am still raw about split, and want to do things right but hopefully by next year i will be much stronger and wont feel the need to do it,

its his bday in may as well, this time last year i was organising a massive 30th bday for him, my how things change and time flies.....

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barmybird · 25/03/2006 20:31

My x hasn't done anything for mothers day. I just asked him if my card was arriving tomorrow and he laughed! it seems such a small thing but it has reduced me to tears again. DD has had a tough time sine we split and I have taken the brunt of her anger, a card and maybe some flowers acknowledging my rols as mummy would have been nice!

barmybird · 25/03/2006 20:31

My x hasn't done anything for mothers day. I just asked him if my card was arriving tomorrow and he laughed! it seems such a small thing but it has reduced me to tears again. DD has had a tough time sine we split and I have taken the brunt of her anger, a card and maybe some flowers acknowledging my rols as mummy would have been nice!

Amanda1 · 25/03/2006 22:00

Barmybird, that's so awful of him. At the end of the day, your daughter appreciates you even if she is too young to do anything about it. My dd is 6 now and earlier this week took the phone upstairs when it was her dad "for privacy" and I could hear her say "you know it's Mother's Day well mum wants sweeties and chocolates"! Which is untrue, I am always happy with the card from school etc, but it was sweet that she it as HIS role to sort this out. In fairness to him, he always has, but I think that's more the influence of his girlfriend - at least in the past. Hang in there, it gets better when they get older.

moondog · 25/03/2006 22:03

sanchpanch..so why are you bothering then??

Twinkie1 · 25/03/2006 22:06

Sanchpanch - he wouldn't mean it if he bought you anything - go out you and DD and do something together for Mothers Day something that you both want to do - treat yourselves - it would mean more seeing her happy face when you are together than any meaningless token he would get you!!

AND FOR FATHERS DAY!!
I used to get XH things that were totally pointless - like a car cleaning kit when I had the only car or a bok token - when he can just about read the back page of the Sunday Sport!! - wrap it nicely and act like you are doing thema big favour!!

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sanchpanch · 25/03/2006 22:09

loving that idea, thanks

and happy mothers day to all you all do a fantastic job,

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JoolsToofedupofbeingbijouxdeux · 25/03/2006 22:12

tbh - I wouldn't expect and 'ex' to

Caligula · 25/03/2006 22:13

God no, and I wouldn't expect him to tbh.

Not his job. And not mine to worry about his birthday/ father's day etc. If he bothered to have anything to do with his children, I might feel differently.

mistressmiggins · 25/03/2006 23:35

my birthday today and I got nothing from the kids from H BUT he bought me a really nice card which he hid in my DD's bag

Dont uou think thats weird?

to not buy anything from the kids but to give me a card on the sligh from himself

thankfully my mum lives round the corner & took the children shopping to choose a present & card

and for other "I hate my MIL" threads, I got a lovely card (and money) from IL plus phone call, plus card from SIL & phone call from GranIL

Grin

who needs ex when I have such lovely ILs!!

moondog · 26/03/2006 10:31

Ah,happy birthday for yesterday MrsM. Smile

Yes,I think it was weird to do that-I think it's called salving his conscience.

nutcracker · 26/03/2006 10:43

Xp got a card and flowers for me from the kids.

My mom also got cards from them incase Xp hadn't.

essbee · 26/03/2006 11:03

No he didn't, didn't even get a card! Still I got a cup of (warmish!) tea brought to me in bed by my ds, I don't even want to know how he made it but it was lovely!

HappyMumof2 · 26/03/2006 11:06

nothing for me either Sad

Amanda1 · 26/03/2006 11:15

Mrs M, that is weird. Ex-dp always makes sure I have something at my birthday, xmas and Mother's Day from dd but we apart from doing a general xmas card to him and his gf etc, we've never done birthday cards since we've split. Very odd.

Happy Birthday for yesterday!

HappyMumof2 · 26/03/2006 11:19

mm, he's either feeling like a bast*rd and trying to repair some of the damage he's done or he's playing mind games with you

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sanchpanch · 26/03/2006 20:10

i agree with what others said, i would be very suspect if ex sent me an xmas card,,,

Hope you had a lovely day anyway..

I have had a lovely day with my girls....

Hope you have all had a lovely day aswell

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