Devastated - don't know where to go from here

[balletmoo]

My DP and I have had a bit of a rough ride of late - lots of bickering etc - but nothing that I thought was particularly major. He has been really busy at work and I've felt a bit neglected but it was a fairly short term thing so I was just sitting tight waiting for things to quieten down and for us (we have DS, 2.3) to spend more family time.

But he has recently hit me with a curve-ball. He said that he loves me but that he thinks that we are not in love with each other any more, that he clearly doesn't make me happy any more, and he thinks it might be best to split up before we start totally hating each other.

I am devastated.

I need to start thinking about where to go from here and I just have no idea. I am currently a SAHM, but we moved because of DP's job and I can't get the same salary here as I used to where I lived before. So I am not sure if I can cover childcare costs and rent for somewhere. I don't really have a support network here so that is just adding to the stress of the situation...

Can anyone give me any pointers? I'm trying to keep a lid on my emotions at the moment and be really matter of fact about things...

Thanks all

x

ask him to go to relate with you to tak thru how to be good separated parents.

Dont give up on your relationship just yet. You have a young child and that puts a strain on all parents. See what you can do - try couples counselling if you can - I have seen that really work for friends and the outcome has been resoundingly positive for their families. Dont make sudden life-affecting changes based on this one conversation.

I'm really sorry to say this but I would be asking him what her name is.

Yes I would be asking what her name is too. Same old script they all follow I am afraid. Mine said that, then started the usual blaming me rubbish. There is someone else.

when will he be less busy at work?

Agree with clam & Happy - where is the book on sale that they get all these lines from!!!!