Need advice!!

[LoneLou]

My sons father has not had any contact with my son (10 years old) for 3 months now. No phone calls, visits absolutely nothing. His new girlfriend doesnt like my son and at a guess she told my ex to choose between them, and obviously my ex chose her. My son has since messaged his father asking why hes not been in touch and got a reply saying he'd really missed him etc etc. My son obviously was happy that he'd replied but also got upset that he'd not contacted him before now. My son hasnt decided for definite whether he wants to see his father or not.
Ive had alot of trouble from his father since we've split, solicitors etc etc so naturally im not really happy they are back in touch but I want wants best for my son and if that means seeing his father then so be it.
What does everyone think?

I think you need to try for his sake, tbh, but I know how hard it is, when they've really effed you over, just to be civil. I am told it gets easier with time, and I am hoping so! In my case, it was really hard to acknowledge to myself that I had really bad judgement when I picked him as her father, iuswim... Is the split fairly recent? People seem to be saying that the first two years of access are the hardest, after that it gets a bit better. I am not there yet.

We have been split for over 2 years now so im hoping things do improve. I have left it down to my son to decide what he wants to do and told him I will always be there for him no matter what happens with his father. The thing that makes things so much harder is that his new girlfriend really doesnt like me or my son tbh and she pulls the strings with my ex. But I will step back and see what happens. Thanks for the advice