Regular that's namechanged for this one.
Ex has had DC for weekend and DD1 has just announced that ex's flat is a total tip. DD1 is 7 and has tendency to exaggerate so I asked her where she'd heard the word tip and what she meant by flat being a tip. She told me she'd heard her Granny tell her Dad before that his flat was a tip and to get it cleaned up. She went on to say that her Dad had cleaned it up and that her and DD2 had helped him but it was a tip again. I then asked her how it was a tip and she told me that there is dirty washing all over kitchen floor, lots of rubbish bags in the kitchen, creepy crawlies (what she described sounded like silverfish! ) under that bath where the side is broken and lots of cans and newspapers in livingroom. She also said that Daddy had told them not to go in his bedroom as it is a pigstye.
To be fair to DD1 I don't think she is exaggerating and it must worry her for her to be thinking about it so much that she would come home and say to me about it. I asked her if she had mentioned anything to her Dad about it and she told me she'd told him it was a tip and he'd told her not to be so cheeky and then asked her not to mention it to me as he's going to fix it this week.
I'm concerned about the lack of cleanliness of the flat. I don't know if I should try to go to visit and see for myself what state it is in and then if it's as bad as DD1 described what to do about contact. I know that if I nag him if will clean it up but unless I keep on at him he won't keep it tidy but as his ex I don't think it is my place to be nagging him about keeping his own flat tidy.