Advice Needed

[TomThumb99]

OK, I have thought long about this, I am not sure this is the right place, but I wanted to know what mums think. I am a 40 year old well educated man working in medicine, I live alone with a dog in North London. I got married aged 22 to a really nice girl, we had two gorgeous daughters together. after around ten years we divorced. I had been working away from home for a long time (not in a metaphorical sense,i wasn't cheating)
Since getting divorced around eight years ago I have met many women, some with children, some without. A few of the relationships lasted a good time - but almost without exception each relationship has failed because they wanted children. I had the snip just after my second daughter was born (it was the right thing at the time) and this cannot be changed as it was too long ago to reverse.

My question is - "Should I just give up for now?" I am really fed up with the heart ache of meeting someone, dating for a while, getting more committed only to hear the same story. I always make it very clear to any potential partner on the first date that I cannot have any more. What more can I do? I am so frustrated, I have a lot to offer apart from the ability to reproduce.

If you are after someone your own age having children won't be on the agenda for long, if at all!!!

I thought that too, we are both wrong it seems, or there are more hopeful women than it would appear!

I agree with RedHelenB if you are meeting someone your own age, then having kids won't be on the cards for long, and many women your age will have completed their families and not want any more children. Maybe you've just been unlucky and are looking in the wrong places?

There's a dating site called something like 'already a parent'. Try there?

I have a couple of single friends who would enjoy the pay packet of a doctor. Are you in the SW?

I take it that this is a somewhat arrogant ad for a girlfriend?

Schlock - I didn't think it came across as arrogant, but maybe I'm naive, and I didn't think that TomThumb said he was a doctor - he said he worked in medicine, which could mean lots of different things not necessarily a doctor. And surely there's much much more to anyone than their pay packet?

No, its not a arrogant ad for a partner, I am not a Doctor either!

Schlock, do you mean www.parentsalready.com ? its closed down

I'm single and don't want any more kids

[flutters eye lashes]
I'm gorgeous as well

DollyTwat - you brazen hussy

DOLLYTWAT LIKE YOUR STYLE!

I guess there is hope!

I am brazen

And still gorgeous

And still single

Use a dating site - most of them ask you to state in your profile if you want children. So you can avoid wasting time on women who say they definitely do. Otherwise, ask early on how they feel about that, again so you don't waste their time and yours if it's a dealbreaker.

Agree that time is on your side, most women give up on the idea when they get past 40, or have them already.

Thank you PurpleRoses.

Yep you have just been through the very worst "time slot" . Assuming you have been dating slightly younger women for the last 8 years then you have hit all the popular childbearing years.
Contrary to all the media about childless women there still aren't that many out there who make that choice (as you have realised).
However the good news is that these are the women likely to be out and about. From my childless friends I know that travel was one of the deciding factors for many of them, either through choice or work. So go on lots of holidays or find a job in the travel industry!