Hello, I just need some advice and thoughts of others how to deal with this situation.
The father of my son and me are separeted since I was pregnant with my son (now 7), the father has another family (wife,kids) now and we always had separeted lifes.
I used to live in England and the father could see our son whenever he wanted, it was mainly for a coffee on a Saturday but no sleep overs or any sort of routine (fathers choice). He really just had him for a few couples of hours mainly a week. Since I´m not English I have moved back a year ago to Germany where I´m from with my son.
He was visiting a few times and this summer my son went to England to stay there with his father and grandparents.
The problem was since we arrived he never rung, not once. I made my son ringing his dad but he wouldn´t ring for months.
I was always single in England but I started a relationship 8 months ago, since then it got very nasty between me and his dad. He was sending me more than 50 nasty and insulting texts a day, the same amount on emails each day and of course stopped straight away the maintenance. He absolutely lost it with his jealousy even tho we haven´t been together for such a long time. He texted my new partner at night etc...rung at night...but he would never ring his son. When my son was in England he came back to tell me that me and my new boyfriend (my son gets on very well with him) have ruined his dads life ... things like that.
A few days ago, suddenly a phone arrives from England (a present for our son) and now he is ringing non stop on this phone and wants to talk with our son. My son of course wants to talk to his dad and I think they should have this but before he wouldn´t ring him ever.
I had to change my phone number already because of the non stop texting to me with his threats because i´m in a relationship. I just gave him a our landline number if he wants to ring his son (where he never rung) but now we have this mobile where he rings and texts again non stop.
So my son is so happy to have his own mobile but how can I controll it that his dad doesn´t ring or texts again all the time just to feed his jealousy. Am I allowed to say the phone is off and I will turn it on just for an hour a day where he can ring then if he wants to???