Is your bedroom off limits to your child?

[TheLittleWhiteRabbit]

Is your bedroom off-limits to your child?

Do you allow your child to come in for a cuddle in the morning, i.e. on a Sunday if you're having a lie in? On that note... do you ever get weekend lie-ins and how do you achieve that?

My bf thinks that in the future as DS gets older the adults' bedroom should be a place where DS has to knock to come in so bf can change clothes, or watch scary DVDs or whatever.

I am thinking about buying DS a bigger bed (he sleeps in a tiny junior size) so I can have proper snuggles in his room with him, ie when reading a bedtime story.

It was different when I was younger because my parents had a bigger house and I've just adapted to living in a small flat as a lone parent meaning no privacy.

Bf - boyfriend or best friend?

both our kids come into our room and bed in the morning (age 5 and 8). Why would you want it to be off-limits? Watch scary dvd's when the kids are in bed! What is a lie in??!

DD is 5yo, DS is 12mo. DS sleeps in our bed. DD is always in and out of our room. At the moment I have absolutely no thoughts as to this changing. I presume it's something which will happen naturally. DD will come to cherish her own space and I will move towards respecting her space as private. She'll probably do the same to me. At the moment she's too much a part of me for my bed and space not to also be hers. And even when we've moved nearer to unspoken boundaries about space, she'll always, always be welcome in my room if she needs me. Those early morning cuddles I'm not letting go of for a few years yet.

of course not. It is the family home. We all go wherever.

Oh and yes to lie-ins. DH takes the dc downstairs and does breakfast/getting washed and dressed with them while I snooze or vice versa.

No, ds sleeps in my bed at the moment. He is 4, and hopefully will be moving into his own room soon. I have no boyfriend though, so it's not really a problem.

Definately not off limits to dcs but it is to their friends after they played hide n seek in my wardrobe the other day!

My children are 8&10. They often come in for a snuggle in the morning or go use the ensuite do dd can start having privacy in the bathroom but yes, they are not allOwed to just walk in, they have to knock first

Ds also has to knock before entering dd's room

Only off limits when I am not in it, and yes when I have a BF I would ask them to knock so I can make sure we're suitable. Obviously it would be a long time before they stayed over though, and preferably I would get a lock on the inside of the door for naughty stuff without interruptions.

My room is my room. If dc want to come in I expect them to knock first then wait till I say they can. Even if the door is open they would rarely just walk in.

I have put a lock on our bedroom, so when it would not be appropriate for the DC to wander in on us, we can lock it

Other than that, it is open, and even 10y old DS likes to come in for a bit of a cuddle in the morning, and I absolutely love that.

My children are allowed in at night though if they have a nightmare. It's only off limits to them if I am "using it" or if I am trying to get some me time.

My room is pretty much off limits to the kids.

Sometimes I do their reading/bedtime stories in there....

I also don't encourage them to wander into each others rooms without permission. DS likes his own space and uses his bedroom to get away from his pesky younger sister!!!

I wish it were...everyone piles in tho and talks and talks and talks till I give up and get up!

Someday my girls will want to sleep in a bit of privacy, and I shall sail into their rooms (at 5 am, without knocking) and jump on their beds (while they're in them) joyfully yelling 'get up get up get up it will be tomorrow soon'

I tried making my room completely off limits but the DC's do end up in there if they are scared at night.

It is definitely off limits for playing in and I don't let them in there on their own as it is the only place that I can leave make up and hair stuff out (they are all 5 and under so lip sticks become crayons etc...)

When exp was here our bedroom was totally off limits. Even when DD's were in a cot in our room, the older two were not allowed in at all. The only time I appreciated that was when I was feeding baby to sleep at bedtime.

Now my bedroom is in the extension and has a separate staircase to the kids rooms, with a door at the bottom, so during the day there really isn't any reason for anyone (including me!) to go in there. DD's (3&7) come in most mornings for cuddles then disappear to play, but both sleep really well so it is extremely rare for them to be in bed with me, only if they are ill, and I want be near to them as neither of their rooms really work with me sleeping in with them. DS (16) always knocks before he comes in, and that is rare, mainly because I spend so little time in there, so he doesn't actually need to.

The girls move between each others rooms freely, unless one of the says they don't want the other in there. They must knock before going in DS's room if the door is closed, and equally, he knocks before entering theirs, but in reality they rarely go near his room as he is 'grumpy and his room smells' and he rarely goes near theirs as 'they are too loud and shreeky, and everything is just well, pink'.