I made the csa claim!

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Emmielu · 05/09/2012 22:37

I did it! After 5 years off pushing it away in the hope visits will do nicely I have made a claim to csa. He won't visit DD. Hasn't paid maintenance ever. So he can start now.

I'm shitting bricks though. I know what abuse will come my way from him, wife to be and her friends. The man I spoke to from csa advised me to ignore any abuse or conversations with ex, wife to be and her friends because it's now in csa's hands. Yes I made the call. But the steps taken now aren't made by me I.e. Sending the letters etc. So that is what I shall (attempt) to do.

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glub · 05/09/2012 22:44

good luck. be strong. if he hasn't ever paid you did the right thing. your child will be able to benefit surely and that's what it's about. a class here, a day out there...

Ladylou83 · 05/09/2012 22:47

Well done you. I haven't yet got the guts to make a claim against stbxh, was thinking of doing it once divorce is complete. But he has already said he can't afford what the csa would make him pay... Oh well that will be unfortunate for him when the time comes

Snorbs · 06/09/2012 10:10

You are doing the right thing. He is both legally and morally obliged to help financially support his child. That, so far, he has chosen not to does not mean that his responsibility vanishes.

JRsgirl · 06/09/2012 11:23

You have done the right thing for your child. When she is older she will know that her Dad helped to support her and although she will know that you did so much more, that will make her feel much better than having a Dad who never did anything for her.

lolo99 · 06/09/2012 22:10

phew I have this all to come. Last conversation I had - no CsA mentioned but he prompted a conversation by declaring he was 'going away forever'...bit extreme i thought just to avoid paying a meagre £200 per month. What a div!!!

When do I need to start filling in forms and when do the CSA need them to start finding him so I don't have to wait years (hopefully) (I don't possibly have up-to-date contact details)

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Emmielu · 08/09/2012 10:16

You can either print the forms off online and send them when your child is born or you can phone them and they'll do it all for you. They'll just send a letter saying what they think he will have to pay. Any details you have of him like full name, date of birth, address or possible phone number will be handy for CSA.

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brandysoakedbitch · 08/09/2012 10:24

I have just had my first payment after over 5 years of waiting - it was exactly one week after he lost the right to see thee children after ausing the court process and after he was charged with fraud and convicted by the csa. So it has been a slow process but they finally nailed him. My ex had the ability (because he is a feckless twat) to swap jobs a lot then be self employed and then unemployed but hurrah for us we finally got some money.. He has a liability order on him now and the first payment he misses they seize his goods. Clearly I will never get what he owes but it does make me feel better to know he has been convicted and is having the money taken away form him each month. Good luck to you, if you ex does not have the ability to keep moving house and job you should get a result.

Athendof · 08/09/2012 12:22

How was he finally caught Brandy? are they already checking IR details?

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Emmielu · 08/09/2012 20:46

Should I be ringing the csa weekly to see what their progress is? My friend said she rang every 2 days in the end cause they took too long to contact her ex.

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Snorbs · 08/09/2012 22:32

Yes phone at least once a week. The more of a nuisance you make yourself to them the harder it is for them to ignore your case.

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