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HE HAS NOT RUNG THEM...!!!

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bizzey · 30/08/2012 22:36

Separated from ds'sx3 dad 3 years ago ..we now live 200 miles apart. They see their dad some holidays when he can and is meant to phone every W/E(ha ha )

But what is bugging me tonight is that we came back from a week abroad that my parents paid for a week ago ...and he has still not phoned to speak to them (or PIL) to see if they had a good time or anything.

He did text to see if we were back and said he would ring....nope ...nothing

This was the boys FIRST ever holiday sun/swimming pool/ beach /abroad/hotel sort of thing...

They have done loads of new fantastic things ..they would love to tell him this ...

???am I being over sensitive ???

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WhoWhatWhereWhen · 30/08/2012 22:38

Ring him?

queenofthepirates · 30/08/2012 22:39

It's hard to judge without knowing past history but based on what you've said, you might be a teeny bit sensitive.

Relax, chill out and maybe there's a good reason xx

Athendof · 30/08/2012 22:42

I don't know really, my ex only calls DS on his birthday, and when DS had been excited about something he had done during the holidays with me, his dad has always taken care to show him that he is not interested...

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bizzey · 30/08/2012 23:04

You are right everyone, sorry ...without full history and out of context it might seem silly of me ...and the story is toooo long to type !!! But he want a "relationship"with them but does not make the effort .

I always give in and ring after 4/5 weeks silence and make him speak to the boys .

But he says he cant understand what they are saying ..or they dont make sense...ok ...monosyllabullb 11yr....chatty(rabbitty)9yr and serious 8yr (under SALT)

Sorry I am just having a moment !

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WoopityWooWoo · 30/08/2012 23:16

No, you let rip. It sounds like your X and my estranged DH could be the same man. I don't mean man, I mean twat. What a useless waste of space they both are. Don't even realise what they could have. The only good thing to come from it is the children. Keep venting honey, let it out.

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bizzey · 30/08/2012 23:34

THANK YOU Woopity...you are right ..me and the kids had a fab time and would never have gone if I was still with him .

I did feel a bit sad whenI heard all these kids say "daddy daddy watch me" and realised he was never going to see his little one jump in the deep end (with ring/arm bands and googles !)...but the kids arnt bothered ??? so why should i be .....bloody pissed of at the in-laws though you would think a granny and grandad would ring !!!!!!

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ScorpionQueen · 30/08/2012 23:41

Some people are just crap at ringing. It's good to vent but I bet you are more bothered than the kids, which is sad but also commonly the way it goes after a split.

Sounds like you had a lovely time and your kids enjoyed their holiday with you, which is what really matters. Sounds like you are doing a great job without him.

WoopityWooWoo · 30/08/2012 23:46

Yes, sounds like you had a lovely time and at least you were able to have your holiday abroad. I tell my DD that she has me as her Mummy who loves her very very much and that some children have Mummies & Daddies, some only have Daddies, some only have Mummies and there are some that have neither. Then I tell her how wonderful it is that she has a Mummy and how blessed I am to have such a beautiful DD. Then we have a big hug.

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bizzey · 31/08/2012 00:18

Thank you all ...feel better and calmer....they are the losers !!!! night night

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cestlavielife · 31/08/2012 14:08

let the boys send email or write if they want to tell him.
the phone calls also they can make themselves or skype.

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