My Life is going to shit.

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Janos · 14/03/2006 20:17

I don't know where to start, but everything seems to be going wrong at the moment.

Financially, things are terrible, as I've had to sign a Protected Trust Deed but I'm actually seeing this as a way out of the mire I'm in. Solictors Letters and CCJs are piling up as we speak.

I'm a single mum, and my Ex is being an arse about access. He won't agree to a more formal arrangement so that I can plan ahead and at least have something resembling a social life.

Finally, work are basically on the verge of giving me the boot, basically saying my work is not up to standard and I am upsetting people in the office with my attitude.

I do not know what the hell I'm going to do. I've got no family nearby and no friends in a similar situation - all happily coupled up with children.

Can anyone offer any words of comfort or advice? Please? This is only the tip of the iceberg.

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gothicmama · 14/03/2006 20:33

stay calm
you have started addressing debts perhaps go to CAB for more advice.
Speak to Hr at work if you are able to and explain about x (why is your attitude upsetting people)
try putting your foot down with x I'm sure there are threads on here with advice about this
most importantly find at least oen positive thing to do each day

mistressmiggins · 14/03/2006 20:45

I feel for you Janos
Is your problem at work related to your home life? i.e has your work slipped cos you are distressed/struggling at home?
if yes, could you be honest with your boss and agree a time period that they can cut you some slack?

as for you ex, be firm. Tell him when access is and if he doesnt turn up then bad luck
Children need routine so make sure you are clear that the only reason you want regular access agreed is for your child - dont mention anything to do with your social life etc

keep strong and come on here to sound off

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Janos · 14/03/2006 20:45

Thanks gothicmama.

I think the work thing is the biggest kick in the teeth because I thought I was getting a handle on things, then this happens.

The attitude thing is to do with me receiving personal phone calls, the content of which has upset people, apparently, and is not appropriate for the office. I can appreciate this but am absolutely mortified that people feel the need to talk to my manager about it.

I am planning on speaking to HR. I have a counsellor at work who is very supportive so that helps.

I don't want to sound like a whinger, I have a beautiful DS who I love to bits. But I am beginning to hate my job. I've had a lot of time off after suffering from PND and I suspect they might be trying to find a way to ease me out.

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Janos · 14/03/2006 20:48

Just to add, I am actually getting on top of the debts thing.

I think work feel that they have cut me enough slack. They are aware of what is going on.

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gothicmama · 14/03/2006 21:09

I 'm glad teh debt thing is being sorted hang in there and try to sort work be teh perfect employee and log everything

bluejelly · 15/03/2006 11:46

Hi Janos sorry you are having a hard time... are you in a union? might be a good time to join, they can be very helpful particularly when you are feeling victimised...
It is hard for employers to 'ease people out' as you put it but I think it helps to have as much back-up as possible.
Is there a way you can take personal phone calls out of office hours?

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