Thought I'd enjoy the peace.....but I'm hating it!!

[Lovemy3kids]

My 3 DC have gone to their dads, my STBXH, and won't be back until Sunday afternoon. They left thursday morning and my house is so quiet and empty

The thing is.....I thought I would relish the peace and be able to relax and have some "me" time.....but I am missing them terribly. We have just returned from our first 2-week holiday abroad as our new "family" unit and we had a great time...DD even cried because she didn't want to come home.....but now I feel so low, deflated and just can't settle without them.

I have tried in the past to get STBXH to have them more, and he's always refused, and this has made me see that I won't be offering them to him again....he will have to ask....selfish of me....probably.

Does/did anyone else feel like this. I know it's only 10 days in total.....but it's hell!!

Quick! Get a to do list written. Including all those jobs you've been putting off. Spend time getting them done each day and reward yourself with time on here.

I bet the kids will see a difference when they get home and it will take your mind off them for a while.

I have 3 kids too and its so quiet when they're not here! The first weekend I cried myself to sleep and missed them dreadfully but I must admit that now I'm used to it and actually enjoy being able to look after myself, I can go for a run, work on a hobby, meet friends for a drink, have a proper tidy up or get some big jobs finished, I've even been on a couple of dates!

I'm always glad to see them again but I think it helps us all to appreciate each other a bit more, we have time to miss each other. The longest they've been away is 4 days so far (that's as much as XH can take!) but I admit that if it were a week or longer I would really struggle.

You will get used to it, but it takes some adjusting when your life has revolved around them for so long! ((hugs))

Spring cleaning decontaminate their bedrooms do some decorating. That's how I do it without a breath between.

I can cope with the weekend when they're not here....but we've never been away from one another for this long since they were all born!! I can't decorate as live in rented property...don't have any hobbies...but did do the cleaning when I came home from work this evening to keep busy! But oh the quiet.....it's horrible....wish they were all here arguing....mad isn't it!! xx

I know, done similar post myself bout Sundays especially. My ds was away all last week with his Dad and like you the house was so quiet!!. As much as the little angels can drive you mad they can be good company as well.
Its not easy, sorry thats not great advice but I think like you am praying in time will get easier.
Maybe think of something really nice just for you, I did end up in Xtravision but a treat to watch a whole film in peace.
Take care x

Start baking DD was away Friday am till this evening. Made GF white loaf, GF sun dried tomato bread and GF brownies in addition to working Saturday working, Sunday on cal with five hour surgery and on call Monday back to work today. Also stripped old rose and deadheaded all my plants in the garden and cleaned the entire house. My aim is to be so tired I fall asleep the moment I hit the bed.
I also knit and sew to pass the time. Hobbies are very helpful.