EXH moved out 5 months ago - after 2 yr affair with my best friend. They moved straight in together after her EX chucked her out. He now lives a 70 min drive away.
Contact with our 2 DCS has been sporadic at best. His priorities are her, her 2 DCS, then him, then our 2.
Our DCs miss Daddy, want him to come home and have had the sum total of 6 sleep over . He will drive 7 mins to see them on some days for a couple of hours, but gives less than 24 hrs notice,she will start texting after about 2 hrs and yu cans ee his whole demeanour change. When he is here, it is as if he wants to continue playing happy families, lets take the kids to the xxxx and xxxx.
Whenever she is away - he is back here for hours then drives back to her place.
In my own mind I do not want him back, too much history, no trust and I am seeing a lovely bloke but what is going on with him. Most of his stuff is still in the house.
I am confused, kids are confused and I get the feeling he is confused.
AAAgh