Advice required - what can we do to help?

[Bitpastitall]

My friends son and girlfriend have recently had a baby, they are 17, they have now broken up and she is a single parent, he contributes and his mother has the baby every weekend at least one overnight. Just setting the background here. This is not a teenage baby bashing thread, my friends son is an idiot and other than paying out money every month has no involvement.

The mum was and is far too young (meaning she is quite immature) to have had a baby, after the initial interest she now cannot wait to move the little one onto who ever will have her, the baby is dirty and smells of smoke whenever my friend gets her, her facebook pages show the little one sleeping on random couches with strangers sleeping around her. She constantly falls out with her mum and is moving around family members houses. It isnt possible to have her stay with my friend, they tried this and my friend was coming home to her house trashed every day after work.

We are all worried about the little one and what she is being exposed to, we honestly don't know what to do for the best, we have suggested that she goes to the doctors, and she agrees, but she tells so many lies its impossible to know what to believe. She is not stupid or illiterate but she is only 17 and we think it has now dawned on her that although she gets money and doesnt have to work its actually quite a tough life, she would struggle to work now and shows no interest in anything other than planning her next night out drinking.

So, what does anyone suggest? How can my friend help to make this situation better? Or has anyone been in this situation and it actually worked out?

Im 19 and i fully understand im 23weeks pregnant.

I no a few(4) girls like this. It gives people like me a BAD name. Id ring social services, she will get looked into. As for every tom dick and harry in the house and shes drinking etc who nos whats going on behind closed doors. Never mind the doctors! She dont care about the baby. I do understand sometimes its hard but you think about that before you have sex etc.

Example. I no a girl she has 2 DD, one is not in her care as she had a nervous breakdown had her when she was 16, her new born is ill, her doctor said she needs to go hospital. He rung social services on her, she REFUSED as it was DD1 birthday. Since then she still has NOT taken the baby to hospital. Went out drinking all weekend. The baby keeps on being sick and cant keep any food down. Shes had 2 children and 2 abortions. Shes 19.

As for smoking around the baby its wrong but shes not that stupid that it harms them? I assumed she smoked whilst pregnant as well. Being dirty could be anything but there is dirty and flith. Its kids having kids.

Im not bashing young mums, only ones who do shit like this that makes me fucking fuming

Hope this is sorted.

Sorry bit you need to ring SS. This doesn't sound like adequate care for a small baby . They will try and engage her with the HV and local children's centre and using mums groups before they do anything drastic - it might help. If there is close family nearby she might need to be supervised by them for a while.
This can't go on - not smoking and drinking - that's a huge cot death risk

Yes I think the health visitor is a gentler approach and then she can hopefully work with her or face the HV referring her to social services.

You won't get much help from the HVs. They will ask her how is she copying and once she answers "fine" that would be it. Ring SS or ring the NSPCC for advice.