I'm really cross over something quite trivial

[colditz]

My ex gets his rota between Wednesday and Friday, and somewhere between then he is supposed to contact me with his plans to see the children the following week. He's a chef, works weekends, and therefore I have always been flexible regarding contact ... But he's taking the piss. He still hasn't contacted me, and it's Monday. I have no idea if he has any plan to see the children this week, and I suspect he's going to claim he hasn't had a day off. Which I don't believe. .
He also owes me Fridays maintenance.

I don't want to ring him, because I'm sick of doing so. I want him to take some fecking responsibility, and not just vanish because guild wars two came out.

Don't telephone - let him phone

Can you get a bank standing direct debit set up - you get the paper work and get him to sign it, that way you don't have to relie on seeing hm for the money?

Oh and seeing your dc is surely not trivial - of course it is upsetting and most flipping annyoying when you are aware a parent can't be bothered to phone and arrange to see his own children.

I might do that about the maintenance, but actually I don't care so much about the money as I do about him seeing the children.

I had a dream last night that I was shouting at him, and I woke up in a fab mood.

My ex is the same, he works shifts and before we separated he used to get one rota at the beginning of the month. According to him he now gets his rota changed constantly on the whim of his boss and so cannot commit to contact with his kids.

Over the last 18 months his contact has slipped to 1 or 2 hours every 3 weeks or so.

Our dcs are aged between 10 and 14 and I suspect it wont be long before they don't see him at all as he finds it such a big effort to spend time with them.

what about the days you need after he gives you his rota to work around your schedule too? His delays will mean your schedule is less flexible..maybe?

He's not going to get to see them until the weekend now, that's why I'm so annoyed. I can only be so flexible before it impacts on them negatively. He needs to make proper time for them and not just see them as an afterthought.

He was never like this before he had another baby.

Also annoyed because although the children are available at the weekend, he won't be so he won't see them at all this week.

And even when he does, he typically picks them up at half past five and drops them back here at 11am the next morning