no contact while on holiday

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my dc's away with their dad as agreed by our contact order. My dc's are young and usually call at least every other day (sometimes more) while away. Despite promising, I have not had any phone calls and only one lying email saying no signal - so sorry. His phone is switched off. Am steaming mad - feel angry and impotent. We;re going through the courts at the moment. I knew he'd do this (he has previousu form) but want to know if there is anything other than ranting I can actually do about it - feel so angry and sad - worried about my young dc's.

I know it is impossible but try not to worry,they will be ok i'm sure.

He's doing this to get to you,don't give him the satisfaction of knowing you're angry.

When they come back,tell the children in a calm voice to say goodbye to daddy and then take them in and shut the door....

Rant on here,to a friend or family member but don't rise to it (this is what i try to do but don't always manage it!) hope you're ok x

thanks for response - logically I know Id hear if anything not ok - am angry because he has 'form' and absolutely promised not to do it this year - my dcs want to say goodnight to me every night ; I limit myself to a call every other day when they're at his but now they're away within the UK he has withdrawn all contact. I am scrupulous about putting them onto the phone with him. I won't have a doorstep row with him but they still have over a week to go and I'm getting very sad.

got the phone call aftera week - apparently he's taken his girlfriend on holiday with them - no wonder he hasnt put them on the ohone.

Slightly different because my boys are older and don't need a daily phone call, but on their week's holiday abroad with their dad, the OW and her son, I arranged to call them midweek at a specific time. A few hours before I was due to call, I received a text saying it was 'inconvienient' as they would be 'busy' and to call the next night instead. It was obviously an attempt to take back control of the call and to piss me off, so I called him all the names under the sun, slagged him off to friends and texted him back, 'no problem' and rang the next night. When the boys came home, apparently he'd gone out for a meal with the OW, leaving my eldest 14yo to babysit the others, including her DS (8), so obviously didn't want me to phone when he wasn't there. What a dick!

So, it's purely to control you, don't let him know how much it has upset you, don't give him the satisfaction. Take the moral high ground and slag him off on here where you will get support and understanding. Unfortunately girlfriends/partners will involved but you mustn't let it eat you up. You will always be number one for your DC.