Weekends solo parent

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Hello I am a variation in that I am with partner/dad but
He works a lot, a lot a lot wkends and weird shifts as paramedic

I have 1.5 & 3.5 yr old - i am incomer to area & my family are abroad
So the shock for me is the reality of me bring working mum and then solo parenting at wkend

What I find tough is that i am single at wkends literally from 7am thru to past bedtime as 14hr shifts
And other pals with kids have partner family time at wk ends - I have 2 great pals who try to rescue me at wk ends with playdates but mostly it's me and the kids

I have even tried setting up Facebook page for things to do on wkend - it's just kids are young, 0physically challenging and quite frankly a relief to get back to work

I do have some good times but I do feel tired, emotional, and burdened

What do lone parents do ? I guess families must help and over time building friendships
I have untold respect for full time lone parents - the wkends are hard for enough for me

I used to be in the same position as you with a shift worker. I used to hate weekends on my own with the kids. I think i was quite resentful that everyone else had their family together and I didn't which didn't help. I have to say I never found a way to make it easier but as they get older things get much easier.

I'm now a lone parent so spend the vast majority of my whole time on my own with the kids - whether it's because they are older or because I accept it more I absolutely love my time with them now (most of the time!).

I'm very conscious that time seems to be flying by, especially summers with the fleeting sunny days. It's really important to enjoy every moment as much as you can . You sound like you're trying really hard to make it work for you so good luck I'm sure you'll do it!

Morning love the name mellow dramatic - yes your quite right I do feel resentment as its hard work at this age as you know & then working as well
I think I do have to change my attitude and relax and accept - as it's my feeling if being hard done by /lonely overwhelmed sometimes that floors me
Going to adopt more relaxed accepting attitude see how that fits and yes as soon as things get less mental with the age of kids ie they bit bigger the weekends hopefully become more enjoyable!
Thanks

I'm now a lp but stbx also worked shifts.

I try and break it up into 'blocks' of time. Before lunch and after lunch.

Today we went to the supermarket then walked the dog (at a place where DC could use their bikes/scooters). Got DVDs and school shoes in town then home for lunch. This afternoon we watched DVDs. Well they did, and I tried to do other stuff. It has been a fricken long day tbh.

I try to really plan ahead too. I try not to let the weekend 'suprise' me with nothing planned.

Can you say whereabouts you are?

Hi, Am in the situation of alone time, mainly on my own on Sundays. Find am dreading Sundays and would love if there are any other mums who would like company, chat & coffee/support.
Are you in Tipp Rosie?, let me know we may be able to help each other.

I used to feel like this - planned loads, made loads of friends and now need to hide away sometimes as I miss me time.
Good for you guys connecting with each other - that is the thing I feel - just put yourself out there and you meet people.
I use the same advice for widows, single retired people - anyone who feels they are not conforming to societies sterio typical `family' - there are plenty not in that role - you will find each other and have lot of fun together and usually when it is optional.... you have more fun x