I have 2 DS aged 4 and 15 mths. I have been separated from their Dad since May (his decision - I am yet to really understand why). I have always told him that I want him to see the boys - the more the better for them. I have offered my house as he has no where suitable of his own. It has now been more than 2 months since he saw them or had any contact. I have tried to persuade him to see them around 120 times to no reply.
This evening I have been told that he is now living with his girlfriend: he maintains that he did not cheat on me with her, but admits he was seeing her the same week he left us. She is 14 yrs younger than me!
He pays no maintenance for the boys but I have always insisted that this is a completely separate issue to contact.
We are very geographically isolated and I guess I just feel really sad and lonely. Our boys are lovely, it really hurts DS1 that Daddy lives just 'calling' distance away but does not see him and DS2 I think, would now not be at all bothered one way or the other.
It is very difficult to see him parade him new lifestyle - drinks, parties, etc so blatantly in a really tiny and isolated community. More worryingly, it is becoming increasingly likely that DS1 will see him during the day with his new gf (I have bumped into them on several occasions but with DS2 either oblivious or asleep!) and I worry how he will feel/what to tell him.
I never wanted us to split but would be willing (as he well knows) to make everything as 'right as possible' for our boys.
I feel really alone, sad and at a complete loss as to what to do next.
Thank you to all for listening to my moans. xx