How did you feel when you left your partner???

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Right left my dh 5 months ago, after years and years of shit. No money no involvment in family life, horrible attitude to me and kids, i had to do everything.

I wish i had done this years ago, but at time i left it was extremely hard and upsetting but knew i was doing the right thing.
I couldn't plan to leave i just decided one day that that was enough i couldn't go on anymore the way it was and he didn't want to change. I was fed up of doing all the hard work to make it ok.
Kids are happier now and ex-dh spends more time with them now than when we all lived together.

I am so happy now, i have my two kids, a nice new home yeah there are things that upset me now and again, but i get over them.

Were you happier when you left ??

Yeah!! i'm definately a lot happier! Its been three years since i split with my ex. when i was with my ex I had a beautiful house, my own little car, a few holidays every year, never had to worry about money really, Now i live in a council house and survive on income support. But I still believe it was the best decision i ever made.

I've just spent the last ten minutes searching through coat pockets and handbags trying to scrape together as much money as i can so i can get a few bits from the shop tomorrow, I have £13:56 to my name and i've never been happier!!

yeah i know what you mean, except that i have more money now than i did when i was married, can you believe that??
i can go on the internet without him moaning and putting a lock on it so i couldn't go on it, sometimes i feel like jumping up and down with happiness and the best thing is my best friend lives 5 mins down the road after yEARS of ex h trying to stop us being friends.

God. What an inspiration you two are to anyone in the same boat.

Here here carla. It could be any of us really as you never know what's round the corner?

Hi, I'm only 14 weeks pg and have just split up from hb. I guess my case is slightly different but after having several months of vicious rows and nastiness, dispite having seriously high bp and an emergency scan I made the decision to leave. I am now facing the prospect of being a single mum which is really scary but I also know deep down that I've done the right thing. I can breathe again now and feel so much more secure than I have done in ages. Its really encouraging to read about people who are coping being single parents and I know that whatever happens,the baby will be loved by my family and of course by me!

When i left 6 months ago, i left and went to stay at my mums not knowing whether i would be housed(because me and exh had a mortgage on the house he was in) but i just couldn't go back at all, it had took all my strengh to get up and leave my life not konwing what would happen. I am not saying it was easy because it wasn't. There were times with the homeless officer said i could end up in a hostal or whatever and many times came out crying not konwing what would happen and still getting used to being a single mother of two children aged 5 and 6. I was extremely lucky and had alot of support. :)

I don't have alot of money now, but better than i was before. It was scary being on my own, but it was the best decision i had made and wish i'd done it years ago. I wasn't on the end of physical abuse but mental abuse and emotional abuse. Was very depressed and stressed when i was with him and regulaly had panic attacks.

Thankfully it's all worked out ok.

yes, very much so but it was no easy task getting here.

i had my own nice little mortgaged house (with ds's dad). we had a car, decent jobs blah blah blah the we split mutually and i had to move.

i got a council house. it was a s**t tip. damp, draughty, falling to bits. every day i went to work full time then got back around 6.30-7pm and came straight here to decorate on my own. poor ds had to live on chip shop meals! then at 10.30-11pm we walked back home where i cleaned our house, got some tea and had a bath etc, getting to bed around 1-2am most nights. after two months of trying to make this place livable i gave up, broke down at work and moved in. it was hard work, tearing out your own hair kind of work! but now we've been here for 6 1/2 years and im much happier than i was!!

(it still isnt finished either......sodding house)