So fed up of x - money related

[Lazydaisy55]

Background - x left 5 yrs ago. Since then I have had approximately £100 towards the maintenance of our son. He keeps avoiding the CSA by dipping in and out of work, so by the time they catch up with the paperwork he has ditched his job.

As uniform buying time approaches I asked him for half the cost of sons uniform cost (I'm a struggling supply teacher, so on JSA at the moment). His reply was "I'll have to ask my wife!".

He is such a twat, has no sense of responsibility. How can he be so unconcerned about his childs welfare? He knows that I will provide for our son, but I really don't understand how he can have such an attitude!!!!!!!

Hi, didn't want to leave you unanswered, I'm sorry you have to sort it all out on your own, maintenance dodgers are unfathomable to me too. There is nothing more frustrating than feeling completely unsupported, and I would be just as upset on behalf of my DC if I were you.

I don't have any advice at all, just wanted to lend a sympathetic ear and say it's crap - I hope that you manage to get all sorted. Remember he is the one losing out in reality. I know that's hard to accept when it's such hard work but in the long run, it really will be the case.

Could you turn up at his front door and ask 'the wife' for the money yourself?

What a pathetic, selfish man he sounds.

Try and shame him into paying.

The csa once told me if they `job hop' they can do a mandatory payment schedule it may be worth asking them about this.