filling your time when dcs are with other parent, what do you all do?

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Im posting this because I find it difficult to motivate myself to do things when my dd is with her dad. Im probably just a laxy caaaaw!

take today for instance, I dont get much time to myself, dd does not spend a massive amout with exp. She does not stay over night, so you would think I could easily fill my time, I do have loads to do and this is an ideal oppertunity but I just feel i cant be bothered. It is nearing 1.30pm and Im not jet dressed, all I have done is straitened out living room and washed up. Kitcken is messy, bedrooms are messy and garage needs clearing out, but Im just now laying on sofa eating crisps watching the olympics. I have a niggling in the back of mind to get up and do the house, garage, cut the grass etc but its not happening. DD uis not back untill after 7pm.

I find this is happening more and more frequent, I would always fill my day. Im not missing her or anything or sad etc she has gone with him, there is no issue there. im not depressed either so not sure why Im like this.

Does anyone else struggle to get motivated when home alone?

I don't think you're being lazy at all!

You've got the hardest job in the world, bringing up your DD on your own - and you need and deserve time to recharge your batteries.

This time alone doing what you fancy will make you an even better mum - enjoy it and don't look for reasons to feel guilty

yes you are probably right, I have cleared out the garage .

I work hard not to have too much to do when they are with their Dad Enthusiastic.

So if I am not working I will petty well only do jobs that I enjoy.

I have mowed the lawn
Piled the laundry for sorting but not sorted it yet.
A bit of washing.

Shopped for my nice meal because I always have something a bit special when I am on my own.

Then fill my time with cyclingwalkingrunningpaintingknittingcrochtingreadingsleeping

It is nice just to 'be'.

I am of the get all the jobs done so that when DD is with me I dom't have any jobs to do so I cleaned the house from top to bottom.

i know its not the same but im a single mum i get 1 solid day a week all to myself which is lovely i sometimes tart myself up and go out for coffee armed with a margazine , and ive been known to sit there listening to music and just being me

I completely empathise with the lack of motivation thing. My two are away for a week. I miss them very much. When they're not here, I always think in theory I'll get loads done, but often I just waste time - almost like I'm just waiting for them to come back e.g. like today - I have spent HOURS on MN. I got dressed about midday, cancelled an optician's appointment because I couldn't be bothered to drive into town, turned down an invite to go out this evening with a good friend. I did manage to mow the lawn, pop round another friend's for a coffee and clean the guinea pigs out. But all that took about 2 hours. The rest of the day I completely wasted. Sigh! Only another six days to go.

This week on my 2 days off I have:

Been on MN
Been on FB
Went for a run both days
Had a couple of beers in the garden with a mate
Taught myself a tune on the ukelele
Been to Tescos and spent time trying on clothes
Signed myself up for kick boxing classes for my next day off
Fantasised about a sexy bloke I know

Why didn't I kick him out years ago?!

Ooooh and sorted out my wardrobe, getting rid of anything that I wouldn't want to be seen in by my sexy bloke friend

Sometimes I cannot get motivated but other times I fly around like someone on speed. It seems to be either one or the other. When I am not motivated I feel miserable and lonely.

Laundry. ExH does fuck all.

Oh, and MN... I only get one night 'off' a month but it can be fun pratting about on here with a glass of wine.

thanks guys you lot are fairly busy.

This week I have been super motivated and have so far cleaned out cupbords clothes etc and generaly cleaned the house, thismis with dd around. Tomorrow I have a whole day without dd and I plan toclean her beadroom and sort her clothes and toys. then pack for holiday on friday.

So when I retun from Holiday I plan to start afresh. DD has a week off school when we return and i still have 2 weeks off uni after that. so Im going to stay clean tidy and organised in the house and maybe start thinking about fitness and doing something physical. I have not been well for a good week weeks/months and just begining to feel myself, but i have put a load of weight on due to being far less mobile and sleeping lots. so I need to get back on track.