WTF!

[Happylander]

My arse of an ex has not turned up today to have DS for the week he has also said I am not to contact him via email, phone or text so I sent his solicitor a letter about him not turning up etc etc and cc'd him into it.

Just received a text from him saying that there was no point in me writing that as she is not his solicitor anymore. He can text me apparently but if I reply he tells me to go away/I will call police/blah blah

WTF! How am I supposed to communicate with the piece of crap??

AAAARGGGGG!!!!!!

In your situation, I'd be wanting to contact him through a medium

That made me chuckle

Thing is he goes round telling everyone I stop him but I don't. I always have things organised for when he is due to have DS and I end up having to cancel them because he rarely turns up as his nights out, holidays and weekends away are far more important than seeing our DS.

Why would I stop him? I want a break from my lovely but demanding 2 year old. I work full time doing long days and nights as a nurse. I was bloody looking forward to a rare day/night out on Thursday without feeling guilty about getting someone else to look after DS. Not getting dressed at all today, watching shite TV and seeing my mates without a toddler in tow. I want a lie in. I want to have a break from caring. I want to drink wine and be able to sleep in. I want to lie on the floor and throw a tantrum...I have learnt the art from my toddler

He also hasn't paid me this month as he went to the CSA to reduce the amount he was paying me by £55 a month and now I haven't even had any cash. So not enough cash to go away anywhere.

I know I am lucky in some respects but I seriously wanted to moan and get it off my chest.

ignore him until he decides he wants to see his son!
then ensure you make it as horrifically inconvienent as possible, maybe a holiday in the other end of the country... but its fine if he wants to travel to pick his son up..

He moans that he is to travel now and has even said that he wants to pick him up later as he has to get up early otherwise....6am he would have to get up!! He is the one that had an affair and moved away not me so why he is bloody complaining is beyond me.

Trouble is he says he wants to see him, then I organise stuff and then he doesn't show up. He is a complete prick! Even my mum hates him now and she has never sided with me about anything and rarely says anything bad about anyone.

Ignore ignore ignore....if he wants to see DS he will.....prick!!!!!

Ignore him. Make him jump through hoops to see his son, he's messing him around.

If it was me (and it was me once) I would tell him nothing happens until you'd been to mediation together, someone else might knock some sense into him. And if he can't be arsed with that then he can go through the courts (he won't be bothered I bet) and it shows how low his son is on his priorities.

I suppose I'm pretty harsh but when XP started playing silly buggers he had 6 months pf chances then I put my foot down, he soon stopped bothering with the DC's when he realised he had to make a regular effort. I just couldn't put us all at the mercy of his whims and moods.

Well to try and make out it was me stopping him and because he wanted me to drive halfway after he had moved away, he did take me to court. Refused mediation. My barrister and the CAFCASS officer were gobsmacked he had done it as I could prove that I haven't stopped him seeing DS and could prove the reasons why he rarely turns up was due to his social life/holidays etc.

I was also offering more contact than he wanted so he looked a right idiot. He looked obstructive and difficult when I showed it was him that had refused mediation not me by showing them the letters from the mediation company. He was firmly told by the judge to stick to the court order he so wanted. It cost him bugger all as he was self representing but cost me £800 in all because I earn £80 too much for legal aid for him to get exactly what he was already getting. Think it was the only time anyone had reached an agreement on their first time in court as I have never had a problem with him seeing DS and had never stopped him. I am however, beginning to feel he should just fuck off out of our lives rather than pick DS up when he wants to show him and has nothing better to do.