who has your kids when your in hospital?

[msrantsalot]

I have been admitted to hospital several times because of asthma attacks and the last time I had to sign myself out because EXp told me he had to work and I had no one to look after DD. Luckily my gp was sympathetic and i went to surgery to get nebulised twice daily until I was better. What does everyone else do?

You have to build a net work of paid and unpaid people who will step in if needed. How old is dd? Make friends with other parents and have their kids so they will reciprocate if and when needed.
Or train up a local babysitter or childminder who will accept short notice .

If it came to it the hospital social workers would sort out emergency foster care but beefeater you have list of people you can call other than ex

Better not beefeater

well normally mum would help but she works nights. I do have friends who would step up and are really kind but DD wouldn't settle, she is 8, and I would be so worried about her and is why I signed myself out. She has been on a couple of sleepovers but both times called home during night wanting to come home. She happily stays with DD1 but I think its too much pressure on DD1 to get her ready and put her out to school, plus DD! would have to get late bus. Last time EXp demanded that DD1 (16) stayed off school or went in late to take DD2 to school, DD1 was preparing for exams and couldn't afford time off, plus she would forfeit her EMA which isnt fair. I understand that if doc says hospital then you should be in hospital but how do you find a balance between your health and kids happiness?

My ex, aunt and uncle, ex's family, friends, sure my childminder would help out if it was an absolute emergency. Do you have any family near or friends who would help. Would suggest a neighbour but that depends on where you live. I live in London so don't really know any of my neighbours - certainly not well enough to leave my child with them.

If the condition is life threatening your health comes first.
Dd will be a whole lot more upset if you risk your life and health because she "doesn't settle"
You need to explain to dd that sometimes you have to gp to hospital to keep you well and those times she may have to be with someone else.

No it isn't fair on your dd1 to be the carer when you have an exp your dd2 father who could and should step in.

Your health is vital isn't it ? It isn't an option is it ? For you and dd long term future.