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Chelsea91 · 22/07/2012 14:33

Me and my partner of 5 years recently split for what he said was a break, we have a 2 year old and I'm 6 months pregnant. I'm living at his parents house and he stayed at our home. Obviously my hormones are all over the place one min I'm fine then I'm devastated or angry which is making us fall out as he says I'm trying to make him feel guilty when all I'm doing is saying how I feel. We don't have much money but once I have paid my board to his parents I am keeping a small amount for any other things me and dc might need and giving the rest to him for food and bills as he is constantly saying how rubbish his life is he's hungry or hasn't got much gas an electric.
Anyways we ended up having sex last night (I tried it on) then again this morning whilst he was saying how naughty it was to do this. I wanted to show him how good things can be so we've been to the park with dc today n now he's gone home I'm feeling slightly confused again. I really want him back and he noes this I don't want to be a single parent at 21 with 2 children :( any advice would be greatly appreciated.

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Olympia2012 · 22/07/2012 14:37

You need to distance yourself... Give both of you time apart to work out what you actually want.

Can you live in the house whilst he goes back to his mums? And stop giving him money, who is working out of you both? Are you on maternity?

wellwisher · 22/07/2012 14:38

Get him out of your home and get back into it with your child ASAP. He can stay with his own parents. I can't believe they are charging you board either!

And stop giving him money. He should be supporting YOU and the children.

Chelsea91 · 22/07/2012 14:53

His mum isn't really on speaking terms with him because of this and to be honest id rather he here as I get more support, we are on jobseekers allowance the claim is in his name but gets paid into my bank account. I dont want to sort out separate claims for the time being incase things sort out with us. The whole things a mess and leaving me feeling very confused!

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Olympia2012 · 22/07/2012 14:56

You absolutely do need to sort out the claim. It's fraud

And you are getting housing benefit? Come on, he will use you and continue to whilst he can. I guess you hope the baby's arrival will sort him out but he has life as he wants it right now doesn't he?

kinkyfuckery · 22/07/2012 14:56

Why on earth have you moved in with his parents with your child and he is living in your house?

Why have you split? Was it his decision? What were his reasons for wanting a 'break'?

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