I have three children and the older two see a lot of their father and he has an active role in their life. The youngest has never met her dad, and is unlikely to. To put it bluntly, I couldn't have 'chosen' a worse man to be with and the relationship was a big mistake - he is violent, abusive and threatening plus he doesn't even live in the same country as us (a relief as far as I'm concerned)
The other day dd3 (who is 3) started wailing 'Where's MY daddy?' I wasn't really expecting this yet - she seeemed upset about it. I wonder if it's because she sees the older girls going off to their dad's? I have a dp who has a lovely relationship with dd3 and sometimes she'll say 'dad?' to him as if to try to figure out if he is her dad. He said that he's happy for her to think he's her dad.
What I want to know is, do I ever need to tell her the whole truth and if so how do I make it non-upsetting for her? I am guessing I will need to be honest with her at some point.
If anyone else has had this situation what was your experience? TIA...