Single mom

[HerMomma]

I'm a 24 year old single mom, have been since I was about 6 months pregnant. My daughter is now 6 months. It has been really hard! Not only physically and finically but mostly emotionally!! It's very lonely! Any encouragement out there..!

Wow! You must be one helluva woman!my sister did the pregnancy and 4 months without a partner around. I was with her for the birth and tried to help out but only you can parent your child when theres no 'daddy' helping.
Have you got support from family and friends? Either way I think you should be very proud of what you've done!

Be proud of what you've achieved! It does get easier too! My DD biological father has never met DD and she's 18mo now, apart from 6 months somewhere in the middle I've been single the whole time from finding out I was pregnant. Try to organise a baby sitter once a month and make sure you have plenty of girls nights in so you don't lose sight of who you are!

Thank you guys! I am proud of what iv done but it doesn't make it at less lonelier.. An no I don't have any friends all stop talking to me after I got pregnant.I do have family but I feel like I piss them off all the time cuz I make them wash there hands all the time (I'v turned into a germ freak since my daughter has been born) so I can't really talk to them about stuff or how I feel. An my daughters " sperm donor" (as i like to call him) has never seen her either. I'm sure it's better that way, I just wish I had someone here for me..

Where in the world are you? Im a 24yo single mum too.

I'm in San Jose, Ca. It would be nice to meet people like me.

I'm also 24yo single mum! But I'm in uk I'm afraid!

Hey lauren where abouts are you? I'm in the uk too, although i think i would rather be in San Jose with HerMomma. It is nice to meet people in a similar situation, as it can be quite isolating.

Isolating for sure! How do you guys get over your loneliness?

I'm very lucky in that i have some great friends at the uni i go to. Unfortunately non of them have children, but they are very good with my DD which makes things a bit easier. I am sad that i don't have any mum friends though. I wish i did.

Hey! I'm a 24yo single mum in the UK too.

Been alone since I was 6months preg

DS's dad has never seen him either.

I feel your pain

Sounds like my story..

Are any of the uk mummys in derbyshire?
HerMomma do you go to any baby groups or anything like that?

Hey puds11 I'm in NE I'm afraid, near middlesbrough- its not as bad as the press makes out

No puds11 I don't.. Probably should look into some.

Hi,
I'm a single mum, I had my son when I was 23. Its extremely difficult, and often thankless at times, but the joy of motherhood, you can't put a price on it. More so as you are doing it on your own.

Have faith in yourself my lovely. My son is now 17 and is the most wonderful son I could ever ask for. I still get a lovely hug both morning and evening, and we say 'I love you' every day without fail. When my son took his GCSE's he got 2A*'s, 4 A's and the rest B's and C's. So as you can imagine I was extremely proud. He's not studying for his A Levels, and plans to go to uni.

Don't get me wrong, we've had our ups and downs, but ultimately when there is so much negativity in the media etc about single parents, I'm very proud to be a single parent.

Don't get disheartened and hold your head up high! Any single parent is incredibly brave, and should be proud of their achievements. I know I am, even though I mess up at times, well I'm human, and not a robot. Take care of yourself xx

Thank you angeld40 that's encouraging!

Brilliant post angeld40 thankyou very much. I would definately suggest looking into it HerMomma, or even try to start your own for young mums in your area.

Yes puds11 that is a good idea
I wouldn't know where to start but I'm sure I can do some research!

HerMomma

dont give up yet. Be proud of yourself. My little boy is 4 and its been hard slog, but it gets easier. Still a tiny bit lonely, but I make sure during the days, our days are ram packed with things to do and people to meet.

You need to be proactive. Local childrens centres are the best.
Keep us posted.

Thank you tubsmum great advice! I will trying my best. I am still very lonely but I'm trying my hardest to be strong!

Its definately worth a shot HerMomma because i can gaurentee your not the only one who feels like this! I can try and help from this end if you like

Thats a shame lauren, and to think i used to live in the NE a couple of years ago. Nothing wrong with being a smoggie

Ahh HerMomma your welcome. It can be very lonely as a single mum. Joining or even starting up your own single parent group as others have suggested is a fantastic idea. Having a support network around is always helpful, and with others in the same position too is doubly supporting.
Believe me your daughter will appreciate all the love and devotion you show her. My son says he knows its been hard at times for me, and appreciates all I've done for him. Bless him, when he needs something, he'll say 'mum, can we afford it'. I'm truly, truly blessed and you are too

Than you puds11 that would be great an thank you angeld40 I feel alot better knowing I'm not the only one like this an I'm not alone

You are certainly not alone love, just remeber that. It may sometimes feel that way, but there is always mumnet !