creepy or me being jumpy?

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exp left recently - every time sees kids he's bringing up (aparently) grirlfriend's, him being lonely, wanting a wife. 6 yr old told me exdh said he misses cuddles so needs a gf - bloody good luck I say after massive gap of few months since he had me for regular sex - feel very hissy after being told he'd been planninng to leave for years(by him) but in the meantime he kept sleeping with me - so I may be oversensitive as now view him as total knob.
Am I old fashioned, weird or just twisted to believe that its too soon to talk about our personal lives with our kids, he ought to be asking about them and their day rather than going on about himself (yawn) and that its just plain creepy to keep this stuff up? - any thoughts anyone?

Urgh...he's a creepy, inappropriate loser with serious boundry issues.
Poor kids. As you say, he should be talking about them.
how are they supposed to process all this??

He sounds very selfish and immature to talk about being lonely and needing a girlfriend with your young children. That's not fair on them at all. Maybe you could email him to tell him you think it's inappropriate, and that they see him because they want to spend quality time with him, not talk about how miserable he is, or how he wants a girlfriend. Tell him you think talking like this is upsetting them and you're sure he won't want that.
I'd also tell them daddy will be fine and concentrate on having a nice time when they are with you.

I think this is one of this issues where as far as the children are concerned biting ones lip is the lesser of the evils. Introducing new partners quickly and insensitively is difficult enough fro children but there is nothing you can do and if you react badly the impact on children is even worse.

It doesn't sound like he actually has a gf though does he? Just going on about wanting one - that's very different.

thanks for responses - no he actually hasnt got anyone and frankly Im not waiting with baited breath...he seems to be setting up playdates with lots of school mummies tho which I also find creepy - can't he spend time with our kids alone?! (suspect doing the hearts and minds thing - like I care as I don't parent by commitee anyway)- Im being slightly tongue in cheek but I do feel he's a self obsessed bore who cannot see that world has fallen in on kids heads (tho Im trying hard to make it all feel ok and sometimes feel like Im getting there)., and they don't need to know anything other than he's fine - or they may worry about him. Thanks for advised response - very good and had'nt thought of it, will definitely use next time it comes up (ie next week).

Maybe he's trying to make you DD feel sorry for him for being 'lonely' etc because he he has a new GF and plans to present her some time in the near future?

So he can say here is my new GF and now I'm not lonely.

Whatever the reason is not right as he shouldn't be manipulating a childs feelings like that.