Why am I doing this?

[fizzfiend]

I've recently got divorced and have gone through all the emotional stuff and now feeling much more calm about everything. DCs are happy at school, financially okay for now.

Problem is I have been drinking and smoking too much and just not really exercising. I have always looked after myself, but now I just can't seem to get the enthusiasm to change. Every now and again I try to pull myself together to get down to the gym and buy healthy food but it only takes one small setback and out comes the wine bottle.

I really want to be around for my kids and need to change but I get so bored and lonely these days. Does anyone have any words of wisdom or advice. I don't have a man in my life and can't really imagine finding one, but that is just one of those things...I know lots of people don't have everything they want. Help!!

Hello fizzfiend
I know how hard and emotional divorce can be. I have been there.
I think we all go through stages where we cant quite find the motivation.
I go to zumba, this is great fun and excercise at the same time. I have met a few lovely ladies whilst going. Try and find something you enjoy.
Try not to be so hard on yourself, you have been through alot.

dont turn to drink and fags! worst thing to do! force yourself to drink loads of water instead, and you'll just get into the habit of it. to quit cigs, everytime i wanted a cig i had a haribo instead (along with an inhalator) -went through so many!!!
i agree with zumba, you can buy dvds to do at home but deffo try to do a class, as it forces u to do more than you want to because everyone else is lol
good luck :D xx

My technique is not to have wine or beer in the house, or else I just drink it. Or just buy one bottle a week with the shopping and when it's gone it's gone. Being a single parent means you can't really go off out to buy more in the evening once they're in bed, so personally I find that limits it. And find some nice soft drink that you like and make that your evening treat instead.

Getting out doing something active with the kids is probably the best way to get some exercise - swimming, cycling, walking, etc. Some areas have family activity sessions or family walking groups which can be fun for everyone.

You could always try the internet dating sites in the evenings - just for a bit of window shopping for now to work out whether you do want a new man or what you might want in one :)