A few words of encouragement needed, dont want to be the fatty :(

[GemsAngels]

Thought I would post here not sure its the right place but not getting a response in the diet section and could do with some friendly encouragement.
I am going away for 4 days with about 15 women and Im so so paronoid, Iv been working myself into a panic, its ridiculous! I feel I dont want to go!
I need some words of support pretty please!!
I am a size 16 and have lumps and bumps everywhere. When I say lumps and bumps Im not exaggerating here! With clothes on I feel fine. Without is a different story but as Im single this isnt usually a problem.
I know when Im away there are gonna be all shapes and sizes but Im so nervous about getting my kit off as the girls Im going with I dont socialize with them, went to school with a couple of them and organised this trip a year ago. I have to buy a new swim suit as I dont own one and Im thinking oh I cant do it. Im going to look awful.
Am I being silly? I wish I had the confidence to think oh what the hell! I know how women can be and I hate the thought of people thinking ew yuk! I know there not gonna exactly think this (hoping not) but I know women like to check eachother out.

Throw your head back and your chin up. No one cares how fat you are because they will all be similarly paranoid about their eye bags/varicose veins/wobbly arse/saggy norks/freaky toes/rancid BO. And everyone has lumps and bumps, yours are probably not at all hideous, you are bound to be quite normal. A 16 is voluptuous and curvy.

The ones who seem confident are the ones who have thrown their heads back and their chins up. Fake the confidence - no one can see how you feel.

Not all women think ew yuk at anyone over a size 10, and if they do, fuck 'em! If anyone looks down their nose at you, fling a crab at them.

Above all, enjoy your holiday. Smile and you will look lovely.

Thankyou EmmaNess :)
This made me chuckle, you are right. I guess everybody has different issues!
Ha ok I will have the crabs ready :)
I hope I find that confidence, I so want to!

Gems, I always get a spray tan done. Boosts your confidence no end and disguises those lumps and bumps (well I think it does). You'll feel a million dollars and when you feel it you'll look it.

Enjoy your holiday :)

Thanks newhorizon :)
This I will try, I have so many lumps and bumps but def worth a try!
I think I need to invest in a sarong also. Did I mention I have stretch marks, oh dear. Ok fake tan is a must!

I'm seconding the spray tan, hides the blemishes and gives you a healthy glow too, the lumps and bumps are still there but somehow they dont seem to look as lumpy and bumpy. Dont do the tangerine orange glow though!!

Also, I bought a gorgeous shocking pink swimming cozzie with bright orange and yellow flowers down one side, halter neck and soooo flattering. It was from Sainsburys for something like £15.00. I'm a size 16 / 18 and fat and I felt quite ok and confident on my hols in this. It's a great costume.

Try and shake off the nerves and go and have some fun.

Thanks FlatCapAndAWhippet :)
Glad you felt fab, bet you looked it too!
I will have to check out the sainbury hols wear then.
Fake tan is a must, Im def gonna try to shake off the nerves :)

I have a swimsuit with "tummy control" (ugh) panels from TKMaxx. A decent swimsuit can be quite flattering. I'm a generous size 16 too.

Thanks NicknameTaken :)
Im going to go shopping saturday and hopefully find the most flattering, with a definate sarong :)

Good luck, and remember that a few styles of swimsuit you try on will be hideously unflattering. A deep breath and keep going. The right one is out there!

Thankyou NicknameTaken
Ok I will prepare myself. I have dedicated my whole saturday to buy a swimsuit! :)

Yeah I agree a nice swim suit, a spray tan, hold that head up high, and just go for it, I admit I am a size 10 but even I have lumps and bumps I really would rather ot have, but even just watching TV, I notice it is more about how you hold yourself, in regards to how others see you!!

Don't be so down on yourself, I bet you look great!!

Thankyou Tambasher :)
I guess we all have little things about ourselves we dont like. You are right it is about confidence, and Im hoping I find some.
As soon as Iv got that costume on and all got together by the pool, I can chill, hopefully!
Iv been thinking about it all day!!

Yeah and see you can hide behind things like sarong, but if you have a hooter the size of mine your fecked, no matter how many people tell you it is not big.

My small eyes and ever developing wrinkles do nothing to help, oh and yes, I found 2 grey hairs yesterday, so now I am turning into a wrinkly, grey haired, small eyed, big nose type person, so not attractive!

I also have the confidence of a sparrow, I hid yesterday when my mum saw a sparrow hawk. Just in-case.

Haha that made me chuckle, Im sure its not that bad!
Its good you have a sense of humour, and you did make me laugh out loud! :)

Oh good and there was me expecting you to be saying

"i'm sure it suits your face"

I have had this from my mum so many times, it doesn't help, neither does "no don't grow your fringe your feature will look so sharp"

WTF? Am I spock??

I rather fancy Spock, if it helps

Actually Spock isn't too bad.

shrek ?

Haha I love shrek :)

Oh right, he is quite cute! lol!

Ladies I have my swimming costume. Its fab but doesnt hide the cellulite on the tops of my legs and now I cant find a sarong to match.
Im looking for a red or black one if anyone has any ideas??

What colour is the costume?