What would you do?

[youngmummy17]

I not sure if this is the right place to post but i'm a lone parent so here it goes, the ex and DS father is making my life a nightmare, he doesn't want anything to do with DS which is hard enough as i find it early hard to cope being young and alone, his blocked all contact with me yet he still knows things i wouldn't say stalking but when i went to the gym last week his best friend was sitting in the car watching me he then watched me in the gym then he left!! 15 minuets later when i leave his still in his car watching me?! yesterday he was in the gym again watching me and on his phone the whole time, when i been on a night out he knows, i got the first text in months saying 'you was out the other day'. I don't know what to do or even IF i can do anything his made my life hard enough by leaving me to struggle with being a single mum i just don't know what to do. Sorry for the long post!

Sounds like he's trying to intimidate you.

I would log all the incidents to start with. Write them down with dates and times.

Send him a text along the lines of "I notice "best friend" has been sitting outside my gym, and you have obviously seen me on times I've been out. Are you trying to contact me in order to see more of DS, because if so there are better ways of doing it. Let me know if this is the case and we can meet with a third party to discuss contact."

See what he says. If it gets scary ask the police for some informal advice, taking all your written dates and times and texts with you.

PS - I know he's NOT doing it to get contact and so do you, but a text like that says you're not scared of him, and puts you in control a bit more.

My ex was like that! My solicitor instructed me to change my phone number. I agree with MagicHouse, that sounds a sensible way to deal with it.

I can't change my number until my contract runs out, but he never gets in touch anyway, i have logged most of the things with dates i'm just hoping it stops, it's a little creepy

you can ring your service provider and ask them to change your number. they will change it before contract ends! If its creeping you out inform the police.