DD father and my ex was released from prison this week. I won sole custody of DD in March and he still has two days left to appeal (hope he won't be bothered but who knows). The courts has left it to us to arrange contact (they are aware of my offer and his counter contact centre offer) I will only alow contact in the begining via a centre and hopefully there will be a time he can see her unsupervised in the future. I have researched contact centres and at my lawyers suggestion I have left it to him to apply for the necessary court stamp of approval before local Social Service will fund contact centre visits.
I have let DD know he is no longer "Staying with the Police" as I didn't want her PIL blabbing. I have rebuffed the various ploys used by PIL so that DD father can circumnavigate the contact centre ( he doesn't believe in consistency).
The problem is now DD wants to know when she will see her father next "how many nights will I have to sleep before I see Papa?". There's a good chance that he won't be bothered and she won't see her father for a long time (she last saw him June 2011). How do I explain why she doesn't see him? What is appropriate language for a five year old? She's going to a new school in September and I really don't want the uncertainty surrounding her Father to make this time unsettling. Any ideas?