My son's Dad is fairly new on the scene. My son was 6 (yest) and is current in foster care due to the anxiety his Dad's reappearance caused me (long story!)
We took him out for dinner yest. His Dad had cause to discipline him as he was messing around at table and continued, despite warnings from both of us.
His Dad then told him, very firmly, that he wasn't going to tolerate any nonsense at all. DS carried on, so his Dad took him outside by the hand and talked to him. When they came back In, DS was a little subdued but ok until he saw me, then he started crying.
I asked his Dad what he'd said to him and he told me. His Dad said.......,"DS, do you think I'm stupid?" "then do you think I'm going to put up with this behaviour" "listen to your Mum and do what you're told"
Now, his Dad was backing me up and always does when we spend time together.
Within 5 mins, they were heads together doing a puzzle and laughing and joking and everything was normal.
However, I can't sto thinking about it. It feels very strange to hear someone else discipline him. We seem quite similar in discipline, with the exception he's a bit firmer than me. We spoke about it at length and he praises me a lot on the job I've done bringing him up.
His Dad has 3 older children and takes the same approach with them. He and DS have a great relationship and bond.
Eek, I agree with what his Dad said.......but want to forget and accept it.
Any advice :-S