exh introduced DS to his own father 2 days after meeting him!

[nobutts]

hi, newbie so thanks for reading.
Long story short Exh is a tool and has always been knee jerk and emotionally driven/impulsive in his behaviour. He recently found his birth father after 30 odd years and met him for the first time. DS then met him 2 days later. EXH did talk to me about it and I gently just flagged up a few concerns etc but also knew that he would do what he wanted anyway. I was able to chat to DS anyway and talk it through calmly. Anyway , no obvious bad effects on DS and why should there be but... i am concerned..
i don;t know how they got in contact - maybe FB where he has a photo of our DS as his profile? i start imagining the gfather being some con artist perv.
also EXH seems to think he has suddenty conjured up a new family (having no concept that blood does not a family make).
I am tempted to contact exMIL who will know details but we haven't spoken for 2 years and I don't really want to sh!tstir if actually no real harm has come to DS.
Am i over thinking things..WWYD and what are your views on the whole thing?

I think as you can't control this then you can do nothing

Yes, you're overthinking. Your ex would, of course, want his dad to meet his son. So I'm afraid you have to leave it.
But us parents always fret about our children, don't we? :)
Take care.

thanks for the responses. I know you're right. It seems that every time things are normal exh throws in a mini drama that because of his previous I feel paranoid and worried about.

My ex got in contact with his dad after many many years and DS was introduced at same time. We were together so I don't know if that made it easier. I now have a great relationship with his dad although don't have an amicable relationship with Ex at all as he is a selfish twat. I am very glad I met him and DS now has a very good, kind decent male role in his Grandad. He may not be as negative for your son as you think.

role model that should say.