I k ow we do these threads quite often but god i am soooo happy being a lone parent!
It took a few weeks for dd to settle but since then she is just beaming all the time and eventually so was I.
We do everything together so I stopped feeling like I needed help all the time. Exp was v find of relay parenting - he would watch her and I'd do well fecking everything else. Now I Judy accommodate her - everything takes twice as long if she wants to help but if she doesn't she seems much happier amusing herself and is happy to choose. She used to cry and moan when I was cooking because she didn't like to play alone - doesn't happen now.
We have a routine she understands and we are far less rushed or stressed even though we still have to dash to nursery at stupid o clock on work days. Better still I feel like I can cope do much better because no one is picking fights to make me late/stressed for no reason!
Our house is calm. Dd can have an hour before tea to watch cbeebies in peace when either I will sit with her and do nothing - bollocks to house work! Or I can leave her to it. She seems to benefit so much from calm quiet time :-)
Lastly I take her out to do something (letting her choose most of the time) on all the days I don't work and we have tina of fun with the other kids or just us. Strangely enough - the house is still standing!!! Exp was so time stingy even though we had ££ to spare. A day out seemed to have to be earned by spending weeks in the house doing nothing that important. We go out as much as we can and yet we still have a full fridge/clean clothes/not piles if washing up and or vermin!
I feel like I should have felt when I first had dd - totally in love with my gorgeous child and very happy and fulfilled :-) no one is spoiling it for me!!!!