"I want a new daddy" says DS 5yo. I say, "shall we go and get one from the shop?"

[squareheadcut]

And the cute little boy actually looked at me as if this could be a possibility. Seriously though, I'd love for him to have a dad as my husband passed away before he was born and he needs a man in his life, but i just haven't met anyone i like, maybe i should just pick anyone, it would be better than nothing. both of my son's football coaches have asked me out maybe i should just go with one of em...don't fancy them though!

My advice would be to go on the dates, sometimes you learn to fancy someone... unless you find them physically repulsive that is

There are many more important things to look for IMO. Bless your litle boy x

What a lovey boy, but unless you think they're fab, then they're not better than nothing, don't sell yourself short! Although, as nam said, it might be worth going on a date, you might like them a bit more when you've met in a non-football context? Maybe not... but might be a fun evening anyway.

Take care x

My little girl used to want me to get married again but tbh I am happy on my own - it would have to be a near perfect guy to tempt me. Certainly don't pick anyone thinking they will do!!!

Awww I don't know what to say but your lil boy is adorable.

You could maybe go on a date and see if you have Anthing common interests?

Agree don't pick just anyone - if someone's going to be right for you, they'll come along at the right time and you'll be interested in them. Being with the wrong person is hellish, and won't be a good relationship model for DS.

You don't have to be in a relationship with someone for your DS to find a father figure :) Are there any men in his life at the moment? Do you have brothers or did your DH have any? Any family friends, grandfathers, a godfather, teachers at school, his football coaches? Do you ever meet up with other families at the weekends etc? Obviously the closer they already are it's easier but all of these can fill part of the "dad" role. If he doesn't have a godfather, it might be worth nominating one (or non religious alternative) just so you know he has a constant steady influence, someone who's willing to make a commitment to him.

I'm sorry to hear about the loss of your husband.