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very sureal day did you feel same?

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almostanangel · 20/02/2006 18:46

spoke to council today..told them i need to get away from h with the children ,,they took details and said ok we will put you in refuge ,but we cant tell you where in the country it will be!!

i then explaind that i am safe but need to get out so i have an apointment tomorrow re private renting with the council housing officer ...am proud that i now have gotton the balls to make this first step at last but feel very odd ,does that make sence xx

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almostanangel · 20/02/2006 18:47

also i have a big urge to get my single name back is it odd to have different name to you r children ?

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nutcracker · 20/02/2006 18:50

Well done yo, you are very brave.

Can i ask a quick question ??

You know you said you have an appointment with the council about renting privatly, what is your housing situation at the mo ? I mean are you renting privatly now or in council or h'a accomodation, or brought etc ??

Sorry for being so nosey, but am trying to figure out what i should do with regards to housing.

Spagblog · 20/02/2006 18:50

Well done for making such a big first step!

nutcracker · 20/02/2006 18:50

Oh i have different name to my kids by the way, and the only time it is odd is when the teahers call me Mrs X's surname.

cathyspam · 20/02/2006 18:51

hello angel - of course it feels odd, what a huge step and you are very brave to do this. Shocked that council wanted to put you in a refuge but couldnt tell you where - that must be really difficult for people in that situation! Anyway - good luck with everything, will be there for you if you need to talk on msn at all. Sending {{{hugs}}}

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almostanangel · 20/02/2006 18:52

we are in private rented which we went through estate agents ,my appointment is with housing officer to get away from h with children they said i would be put into privated rented ,,does that make sence?

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almostanangel · 20/02/2006 18:54

cath thank you yes would like to talk and the refuge thing scared the daylights out of me i told her i dont care about me but i dont want to disrupt the gils mer than i need to ,,she said well you should care about you ,,anyway ,,,,,,,

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almostanangel · 20/02/2006 18:54

and cathy im not brave im scared shi*less!

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nutcracker · 20/02/2006 18:54

Yep perfect sense thanks

They will put you in touch with private lamndlords that accept dss then ??

Sorry to bombard you with questions, am sure it is the last thing you feel like doing, answering me.

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almostanangel · 20/02/2006 18:55

nc thanks i wont do it yet just keep thinking i dont want his name,

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almostanangel · 20/02/2006 18:56

n c no it helps as i said very odd day was in tears to a very very good friend on phone this morning who was an absolute star and stopped me giving in

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nutcracker · 20/02/2006 18:57

Oh i agree that you are doing the right thing certainly. Have read some of your threads and you cannot live like that.

I am in almost the same situation as I rent but with HA but ex won't leave, so i need a private rent too. Perhaps i should ring council tommorow.

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almostanangel · 20/02/2006 18:57

and yes re landlords ,hopefully near by as i have my mum in near village who needs my help and dd3 has been so happy at this school we shall see,

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nutcracker · 20/02/2006 19:00

Good luck then, let us know how you get on.

I also want to stay in this area as i really need my family support right now.

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almostanangel · 20/02/2006 19:01

nutcraker do yo uwant my msn so we can talk

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7777777 · 20/02/2006 20:03

nutcracker and almostanangel, cant you get your exes to move out of the houses and you both stay as you have the kids. i cant imagine how you must be feeling at the moment, very stressfull, good luck to both of you.hope you manage to have a supportive chat together

cathyspam · 21/02/2006 10:35

message for angel - my computer crashed last night during our msn conversation and I feel so bad that I couldnt reply to you - will e-mail. Really sorry. Hope you are feeling strong this morning.

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almostanangel · 22/02/2006 07:16

cathy dont worry [hugs] am feeling like complete loss today any way
h was taking it too well and lets just say last night ..i should hve left the house there and then,..havent slept all night went to bed fully dressed an kept a friend awake on the phone wit me to whom i will be gratful for eternity for really saving my life xso no its not going well but i can see a future

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cathyspam · 22/02/2006 07:19

so sorry things are so difficult for you pet - how soon can you leave? Do you have to wAit on an offer of a house? Is there not enough room at your mums? (((((hugs))))

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almostanangel · 22/02/2006 07:19

went to council yesterday and they still wanted me out now! to a refuge,i thought they would were going to help but they said ,,i need to find a landlord that will take dss and go from there ..so tis what i will do need to save deposit too ,.
am talkin to my bro later hoping he will let us go there for a while .

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almostanangel · 22/02/2006 07:20

hi hun xx

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almostanangel · 22/02/2006 07:21

without details ..last night i was so close to giving up on everything,,,

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cathyspam · 22/02/2006 12:30

please dont give up - it is not good for anyone. You need to try and ben strong - you deserve a better life and so do the kids.

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almostanangel · 22/02/2006 14:45

thank you and thank you for your emails and help[hugs]

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