Asking for daddy

[deva87]

Hi girls,

My little boy has just turned 2 and has been asking for daddy several times a day.

My son's father has never had any interest in him, so I am a little concerned that he is asking for my current partner. We haven't been together that long enough to even have that sort of serious conversation as I don't want him to feel like he has to step up to the mark of being his father figure, especially when he's due to deploy in a few months time.

My partner is taking us away on a weekends break on Friday, so my concern is that if he calls him daddy while he's there that my partner will freak out. And I have no idea how to warn him or even start the conversation over text without setting off alarm bells in his head.

Help!

I would warn him...at least he will be able to arrange his face appropriately and not fall over! Surely just telephoning him and keeping it straightforward..."this is what DS is doing, I don't know why, please don't freak out!" would be the best thing.

If it helps i have lots of DCs and at the age of 2-3 they all (except for no.2 who was mostly silent at that age) called every man they met Daddy...even though their father was very much around...caused much amusement, embarrassment and head scratching!

To many children that age 'Daddy' and 'Man' mean the same, don't let it freak you and warn your dp so it doesn't freak him either.

God now he's just confused me even more.

I just text him to warn him and his first text said he would would of freaked out and then the second that it wouldn't of fazed him...

Confused.com!

My DS aged 2 sees his Dad several times a week and really loves him even though they have never lived together or had overnight contact. He also calls most other men Daddy which can be pretty embarrassing. Don't let it worry you. Hope your DP gets his head around it - can understand why he'd be freaked out if he hasn't had much direct experience of small kids.

not in your situation
but you are great
hope thing work out for you

I lived with my own father when DS was born, until the age of two. When he first started speaking he called his grandad "dad" because he heard me calling him that (his own dad isn't around). I always corrected him but the rest of the family found it very funny. I was always mortified he would call him "dad" while we were all out together and people would think my dad was my husband... weird lol!

My DS called me daddy at about that age (I'm his mum)!

Would suggest just mentioning your DP as often as you can in conversation by his name, and getting your DS used to saying his name. (can he pronounce it? could he shorten it if not?)

He knows his name as he calls him by his name when he sees a photograph of him. Just don't understand why all of a sudden he's started asking for daddy when his daddy is an absolute tool lol

LucieMay - he's been doing that too as I too live with my father. So now I've started saying "no granddad is mummy's daddy" and he understands that and calls him granddad Gaz lol

Deva- it is funny! I actually just started calling my own dad "grandad" all the time so he'd catch on- something that continues to this day- I call him grandad now more than dad!