PLZ IVE HAD ENOUGH HELP ME ..

[tjgx]

PLZ READ MY LAST THREADS LOST CONFUSED..ALSO CONTACT AT CONTACT CENTER....ive really been through it this week,,so much has gone on my mind cant atke no more...ok if you read my last threads...this is what has happend...ok my 2 girls do not have friends here due to all the trouble iv ehad with the family...my eldest begged me can 2 of her friends come here so they can go out to eat,,i say ok...anyway..4 of them leave my 2 girls n their 2 friends...im in living room seeing to j..when i hear shouting n screaming...i go to window the family are abusing my girls n their friends...i had 2 leave j n run downstairs 2 see what was going on..when i get down theres xs mum sisters friends,,boyfriend..screaming at them..swearing threatening..i couldnt do anything there was more of them than there is me...i was scared so i just told my girls to run...the eldest girl the sister of x who 17 was screaming im going to fking kill them watch watch u slags..the mum told my kids to fk off all that..then i hear them shouting getdwayne thats the x..i don tno whether they saing it to frighten me or wat..so i ran in..phoned police...5 mins later the x sister screaming up at my windows..u fking slag big woman come down here...i went to the window i said who u speaking to,,she said i want your girls n their friends..i told her they had gone. i noticed something in her hand it was either a bat or a lump of wood...i said 2 her look ur a big woman to them they only 13 leave them alone...she then continued to abuse me callin gme all the names under the sun which i ignored..anyway nx thing i hear the x outside shouting to his mum whats going on...i though o hear we go he gonna start now..but he didnt anyway..police came they spoke to x mother as usual she denied it all...police did nothing!! so ive bnow been to my sol who has now applied 4 an injunction to the family..but 2 the x but im 2 scared now to go to contact center..has i feel very unsafe...n vunrable right now...i feel he might have some1 waiting 4 me when i get out of there..so ive told sol im not doing the visit im to scared...this is really getting to me i dont know how much more of this i can take feel im going 2 break help plzzzzzzzzzzzz x

I'm so sorry to here this tgjx - I've read some of your threads. Sorry I can't offer any practical advice but didn't want your post to go unanswered. Thinking of you and I'm sure someone will be along to offer some more practical help.

Take care xxx

tjgx, it sounds to me like you need to phone women's aid helpline and get some proper professional advice to deal with the situation you're in.

Have you tried them?

Re the police, are there any other witnesses who would be willing to give statements?

tjgx

I've read your past threads when you had a similar problem. I think you really need to get away from where you are, be it a womens refuge or something like that. Especially if the police aren't doing anything about it.

Your children do not need to be near that kind of outrageous behaviour nor do they need to hear threats that they are going to be killed

Call your solicitor and explain why you cannot make the appt and arrange it another way. Could he come to you? Have you any family or friends who could accompany you if you do need to go out?

Hi all....thanx every1..its so hard 4 me to get out as they live beneath me,its intimidation all the bloody time...i was in contact with womens refuge...they gave me alot of advice bu tthey did say normally they help when its the x abusing bu thes not abusing hes doing it through his family ive no proof that he has done this...so complicated...basically because it his family who are the abusers..me n the girls are going through therapy now because of them..its a bloody joke..n i feel so worn out with it all..solictor has now applied for an injunction...i dont go out at all have my shopping deliverd n if i do go out im out early hours of the morning to get air...evry1 in this block hates them but no1 will stand up 2 them think im the only 1 who has....i feel so confused wat 2 do...ive now got a case worker who says she will get me out n that once th einjunction is in force my council wii have 2 move me!! i dont know feel like im going to explode...n ho wive kept my hands to myself i dont know...cause all i want to do now is attack them... n show them im no frigging door mat ...

Do you have a chance of applying to a housing officer about the trouble you're having? This will only be possible if you're with a housing association or Council... unfortunately home-owners and private tenants don't get this kind of support. A Housing Officer will take this issue very seriously.

Here the police have given me an Anti social behaviour form to record any happenings that are threatening... as a Single Parent you will be listened to - just keep your composure and NEVER enter into any swearing or abuse...

You have to keep the moral high ground. I know it's really difficult and especially so because your children will have to bite their tongues too and ignore the verbal abuse - in the long run you'll be doing yourselves a great favour

Hope this helps and doesn't sound too smug... I've had trouble in the past - not quite as bad as you - but getting police, housing association etc on your side is reliant on your being able to express yourself calmly... HTH

Ah - sorry I see you're well on the way to getting the support you need... so glad for you, keep gritting your teeth rather than resorting to their tactics.
Take Care

hey sweetheart. i am so sorry you are still going through all this, i dont no what to say, but why dont you try posting under the legal section where there is some great advice given. i will be thinkin of you. if worst comes to worst go plonk yourself and your kids at either the police station or the council offices and refuse to move until something is done. massive hugs. xxx

Just a thought, tgjx. Are you keeping a record of all the abuse? It may help with getting you a new place. I'm sorry sorry you have to deal with these vile people. What sort of scumbag subjects anyone, let alone a child to this kind of abuse

HEY GOOD NEWS GOT AN EXCHANGE YIPPPPEEEEEEEEEEEEE o my im over the moon....thanx 4 all ur advice all of it has given me great comfort 2 know some1 out there listening 2 me thanx every1....xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx im off to reading got a beautiful house i cant wait im so excited xxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Just read your thread. Really glad you have got hope in sight, hope it will be very soon for you. Good luck.

thanx reyxxxxxxxxxxx im so excited....its the first time in almost 2yrs ive felt happy im soooooooooo looking 4ward 2it...i feel a big weight has been lifted...

Aw, Fantastic news tgjx! Am so pleased for you. Really hope it works out

I've been reading your threads tho never posted, wow you must be so relieved mega congratulations !!!!!

HI thanx im over the mooooooooooooon...went 2 c house 2day n loved it cant wait....will post papers 2moro..so fingers x 4 me every1 that all goes well xxxxxxxxxxxxxx