I wanted to write a quick update because my post 6 months ago in 'Relationships' was in the immediate aftermath of H leaving me for OW he'd been having affair with for a year. I've got two DS's who were 3 and 18 mns at the time. OK, it's not easy. But life is munch better than it was living with H who clearly resented us and was constantly irritable and bad tempered. I've started running, and can now run 5k, aiming for 10k race in the autumn. I've started Ukulele lessons with a great teacher who comes to my house once a fortnight after the kids have gone to bed. I still work part time as a nurse but my manager has let me have regular shifts every week so I've been able to organise childcare. I've got a place to study for an MA at the local university in September. My eldest starts school in September, and my youngest starts playgroup so will have small windows of 'me time'. The teacher at my 3 yo nursery has told me he's 'calmer and happier' since his dad left. Relations with my ex are cordial, although he doesn't see the kids very often. It's hard not to feel resentful sometimes, especially as my ex and his girlfriend are always off on holiday or weekends away. But I'm lucky in so many ways. I have two beautiful children and have the privilege of watching them grow up every day. I never knew how amazing my family and friends are. And my ex's family have really been there for me too.
If you're going through something similar, have hope. Your life can be good, even if your family looks different from the way you imagined.
As for dating, not a whiff of anything! I'm clueless in that department, any tips gratefully received!