on-line dating, scary or great?!!

[joysofmotherhood]

Hi anybody gone done this road and had a good experience?. The whole idea of dating again is something I would find bit scary but am interested if it actually works or someone would recommend. My lifestyle is not condusive to meeting someone as work mainly with women (def a man am interested in!) and mind child at home when not playschool. When I do get out mainly for coffee dinner with married friends.
Can anyone recommend a good site to try, seems be so many out there.
Any advice, insights to this foreign world be very welcome!.

I'm on plenty of fish but would say there are more trouts than salmon

Iv just posted on relationships. 'Recently joined a dating site. Advice appreciated.' Iv joined a site and asked the very same question. Lots of dfferent views on there.

I will watch this thread with interest.

I've tried internet dating and only get interest (and even that is a very small amount) from men over 55. And even then, we are talking about two a month - and that's just looking

I might head over to the relationships thread and see what people are saying.

Great, thanks for comments will link in with relationship thread. I know have had a browse at some sites and some of them look a bit scary, just came across a transvestite looking for a nice female friend!. Oh my god hope its not too strange!.

hi match.com voted as best value dating site; i joined singleparentdate and mumsdatedads which were ok but limited clients. match has most members and is oldest site online.x

Scary and great! Met DH on tinterweb, married after 14 months, baby 9 months later, DS now 2 and dc2 on the way.

met my dream man on just single parents,first man i actually felt drawn towards by his profile,only man i actually was brave enough to meet,was the most exciting and the best thing i've ever done!! He's truely wonderful,have been a couple since feb and it just gets better and better! go for it!

Wow,heartening to hear the positives. Have just signed up for a month, may sound silly but concerned bout posting a pic. Where I live such small place everyone knows you or of you. Really do not want exp knowing about this as can imagine would be v jealous and its really not for him to judge but I do need to keep amicable relations. So how do you move on when you have skeletons in the closet!!

I joined Plenty of Fish but was spooked by the men googling me as soon as they know my real name, so never actually met any of them.

p.s i would avoid free sites llike plentyoffish and person.com ; gen men looking for sx and not much else; paying tends to weed out the worst sometimes!

Met my dh 15 years ago on Internet poetry chat room not dating site - go of it

dreary ... hope your experience is more thrilling op certainly nothing to worry about

Not sure about match - been on it since Jan and not had a single message even though I've sent a few and a few winks.

Also on fish dating - have met two people, both nice. First - I had a nice enough evening but knew it wasn't for either of us. Second - met for coffee, seemed to get on well. Have had a couple of phone conversations since and meeting up again next weekend.

Still not sure how this will all work though. Have told older DCs that I have joined some dating sites (eldest's comment was 'well good luck with that' - and not in a good way ). Not sure how we actually meet up except fortnightly when I don't have DCs. I guess slow is best but actually am too impatient! Meeting the second, and actually having a laugh as an adult woman with a man, has made me realise just how much I miss having someone in my life - from the obvious down to the simple things like a hug, having someone to snuggle up with in bed. Slightly worried that I've opened a bit of a can or worms as before this just got filed with 'stuff I don't think about'.

Met my lovely DP on Lovestruck 18 months ago. Scary yes, great, yes if you get the right one.

Go for it, you've nothing to lose.

Do it do it do it! I was on pof. Had a ball messaging loads of men (I'm a bit of an online whore I'm afraid ;)) met a few- the first 5 were duffs, but pleasant enough for a dinner / drinks out, met my current partner on there and we're having a ball!

Do put up a photo- theres absolutely no shame in online dating anymore- loads of people do it, and anyone who sees you is on the site themselves so has no comeback!

Don't use your full/ real name until you meet in person, surname only if you like them so no stalking can occur.

Give it a shot! Good luck!9

It can be a real mixed bag but definitely go for it. I met someone on pof and it didn't work out but its ok.
Many men although advertising for a date seem to want to send one word messages and it goes nowhere, even if they contact you first. This is really common. The majority of messages lead to nothing.
Conversations can all of a sudden turn to sex with no prior warning. Thats frustrating.
It's very hard to move the message to a real life date. You would think they would want to date but often thats not the case.
In my experience most of the men had little interest in my profile, only the picture.
There is a tendency to get asked a question without any information. I used to get contacted by men with no picture and limited information saying 'do you want to meet for fun'?
However, persevere and there are some decent ones in there.
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