Feeling sad

[Sam1973]

DH moved out 2 weeks ago. DS (aged 9)reacted strongly at first but has started to calm down. DD (aged 5) hadnt really reacted but tonight we were having our movie night and i noticed she was quiet. Then i saw tears rolling down her cheeks, when i asked her what was wrong she said " I miss Daddy"

It broke my heart, now they are both asleep and i just feel so sad. I dont want him back, i dont love him anymore- i just feel so bad that my kids have got to go through this.

Has any one got any tips on how i can make it easier for them? They see Dad regularly and we have kept it friendly for them..

I really feel for you - I am going through a similar process with DS who is nearly 12 but for different reasons (will start a new thread on it as I am looking for some different advice)

What is working for me/DS:

• Looking forward/planning things to do with them to help take their mind off of it
• Talking to them, re-assuring them, being there for them, lots of hugs and encouraging them to share how they feel and acknowledging it.

It is heartbreaking to watch and like you, once he has gone to bed I feel sad for him. I am learning fast not to go into agreement with DS's feelings nor defend his father, as I understand his emotions are all part of the grieving process - angry, upset, resentment and bitterness - they will come out of the otherside, it just takes time for them to let it all out and become settled with the new arrangements.

It's tough, but if you and your ex stay friendly and joint parent, the children will eventually be happy again too.

Good luck.