Wow this is hard!

[Amitolamummy]

I have 2 sons, 4 yrs and 8 months and 2 dogs who are not that easy to look after. I'm also looking to move house in a few weeks, out of the house I shared with my hoader ex so there is so much to sort out.
I'm sooooo tired. There are not enough hours in the day and I have no idea how to get everything done.
My little one doesn't sleep for longer than 2 hours at a time, I bf and co-sleep and want to continue because i get more sleep this way than getting up to see to him.
I keep telling myself it will get easier as they get older. It will won't it? My ex didn't do that much but I could at least have a relaxing bath in the evening and a few minutes to myself.
Ugh, I should go to bed but i'm hiding downstairs because my little one will want me as soon as I go to bed

For me, I have found this book invaluable as a single mum www.amazon.co.uk/gp/product/1903458358/ref=oh_details_o00_s00_i00
It's not for everyone (controlled crying) but has given me back a big chunk of my life. I'm stil BF at 13 months too.
To reassure you, my DD took to it in one night and has slept independently since, quite happily I might add!
If you do want to free yourself up (and you might be quite happy as you are but it won't hurt to suggest), this has some answers.

It gets much, much easier as the kids get older. Mine were nearly 4, and 3 months when my ex moved out. It was really tough with a baby and a child, but once it became two children it started to get much easier. They would enjoy the same things, eat the same things, sleep at the same time, etc.

When I was still waking a lot in the night with my youngest I used to let my DS go downstairs, get a glass of milk from the fridge (which I would leave there the night before) and watch Cbeebies for an hour or two in the morning - I worried that this wasn't great parenting, but it meant that when I got up I was a much better parent as I wasn't so shattered. And DS was very happy with the arrangement.

Moving house is really hard work, but getting rid of your ex's hoarded junk and getting a place of your own without his junk will feel really good. Try and get friends round to help you sort stuff out, or even get your 4 year old packing boxes.

One thing that did make a big difference for me was giving my bf DD a single bottle in the night - she was about 8/9 months at the time - one big bottle of milk and she would go back to sleep for the rest of the night, no more suckling every hour or two. I know some people are really reluctant to do that, but it did make my life a lot better.