Feeling wierd about my choice of father.

[toptramp]

DD's dad was not happy when I got pregnant; he put a lot of pressure on me to have an abortion but I resisted thankfully. Then for the entire pregnancy he messed me around then buggered off abroad when I was 8 months pregnant. I am so happy with dd but I am really struggling with my choice of dad for her.
I mean we weren't suited and I was only with him for 6 months when I got knocked up. I just make the most bizarre man choices. Plus he has gone to Iran as his late mother was Iranian. I just feel so sad for my dd and also wierd that we know nothing of her dad's side of the family. I have had mental health problems and these problems have affected my choice of partner in the past.
If I had my time again I wouldn't have got pregnant with that man but then I wouldn't have dd and I wouldn't change her for teh world. I just wish her dad had been supportive.

toptrump - if you got 'knocked up' then you didn't really 'choose' the father did you?

Try to kinder to yourself. I think you're a bloody hero. You didn't abort your child despite the pressure put on you, you had a shit pregnancy and now you are raising a much-loved child on your own.

Unfortunately your DD's dad is a loser. There is nothing you can do about it but do not beat yourself up about it because you can bet your life he is not losing any sleep over it.

Hi there; I think he was genuinely gutted with hios decision as we did keep in contact when dd was born and he was crying etc. TBH I don't care how he feels about the whole thing. What I am worried about is WHY I have made such shite man choices. I mean wtf? I think I have mental health issues!